12 Signs You’re Dating A Highly Selfish Man

“They gladly take any favors you do for them, but when asked if they could reciprocate once, they get defensive and or aggressive and act like you’re the selfish one for daring to expect something in return. It doesn’t make you a bad person to expect reciprocation in a relationship with someone else, romantic or platonic. Relationships are give and take and that makes them healthy. It’s not entitlement to expect kindness if you give kindness. If you’re the only one giving, you’re being taken advantage of.” — random-shit-writing

“Combative comparisons. This is what I call it when someone always has a response to what you are talking about that somehow always seems to ‘one-up’ you. It doesn’t matter what you are talking about. Somehow, they always have a better or worse story that puts yours aside. It’s intended to invalidate what you are speaking about and remove the attention from you onto them. Pay close attention to people who practice this malicious style of conversation. You will be glad you made note of it as usually this is not only selfish, but very narcissistic in nature.” — razldazl333

“Conversations don’t feel like conversations. They are one sided talks about what they want, their thoughts, their life, their priorities, etc. When you are able to slip a word in, your words are used as transitions in their dialogue. No matter how you format your words, they all just add to the plot of their story. What you say and what you do are pawns in their game to be manipulated in a way that belittles your experiences, actions, opinions, and choices.” — myheadspurgatory

“When every single bad thing that happens to another person gets spun around into their personal problem. I’m really upset because my friend/family member is going through X.” — Purrminator1974

“If you ask ‘how are you?’ and they can’t even be bothered to ask you the same.” — spaceman757

“They never admit when they are wrong even if there is physical evidence!” — mikeweasy

“Every bad thing you do to them is drama-worthy. Every bad thing they do to you are details and should be moved on from, and why can’t you just do that? You’re so dramatic!” — Pasdusername

“They respond with how worse their situation is when you’re sharing your problems with them. No trying to help or listening, just trying to draw attention to themselves.” — seyfgs

“If you are in a group and there is one person that is constantly interrupting the middle of what you or anyone else is saying generally to brag about themselves with a ‘one-upper’ story, it’s generally a precursor to stop associating with them. I’ve met too many of them in my days and they are more often than not happy to throw you under the bus whenever the opportunity arises.” — Philay_shio

“They’re rude to waitstaff or just staff and employees in general. Or if their situational awareness is severely lacking and they don’t seem to have a problem with it.” — SpeedBlitzX

“They don’t remember the times people helped them, but remember clearly all the times they have helped others.” — GoodMerlinpeen

“They have that superpower to lead everything back to themselves. Even when you’re actually talking about your own life or a specific problem of yours, they somehow make it that you start talking about them instead without even changing the topic.” — Anskin12