13 Couples Admit Why They Got Engaged (But Never Got Married)

Unfortunately, an engagement won’t always lead to a wedding. Sometimes, you realize you aren’t meant to be before that walk down the aisle — which is better than finding out later. Here are some real couples explaining why they never went through with getting married after all:

“He wasn’t participating in the wedding planning at all and I realized he didn’t actually want to get married. There was a lot of pressure from his family and admittedly, me as well. I just wanted a family and to be married and hadn’t really paid attention to his reluctance up until that point. It was three months before the wedding and I sat down and reviewed our relationship. We were incompatible in several crucial points, even though we loved each other a lot. So I called off the wedding and ended it and while we were both sad, we were also relieved. This was more than a decade ago and whenever we run into each other we catch up and there are no hard feelings at all. He’s married and a father now and I couldn’t be happier for him.” — Midnight_Muse

“She started hanging out with an old group of high school friends and just changed. She became extremely nasty over wedding plans, telling me we had to have the exact same number of guests on both sides. If I had one more guest than she did, she made me remove someone from my side. I knew if I moved forward it would have ended in divorce, so I just ended it before it got to that.” — Wastoponcene

“The Holy Spirit came to him in a dream and told him that he couldn’t marry me because I wasn’t a virgin.” — hitlersdick69420

“I said yes under duress. He proposed on stage, it was very hard to say no. I broke up with him later. He was engaged 2 more times. He always asked in a similar, very public way. Then he was single for a very very long time. He finally got married. I don’t know how he proposed.” — lalabrat

“He cheated before we got married and I found out. I thank the stars every single day I didn’t marry him.” — fatfemmebish

“He refused to get a job after 5 years together, and I realized I would be paying for everything on my measly teacher salary. Was able to buy my own condo a month after breaking it off.” — MissEducatedMo

“Cancer took her before we got married. It will be 10 years in December.” — Webster117

“We had like 6 miscarriages. At the end of the relationship he said something to me like, it’s just so hard… I look at your face and I feel like I SEE nothing but 6 dead babies. Can’t really come back from that one. I mean some people can. We couldn’t.” — relentpersist

“He left me for a coworker he claimed for over a year was ‘like a sister’ to him. They have a kid now. I have a better boyfriend.” — gaylien_babe

“The longer we lived together leading up to the wedding, the more he showed his true colors. One day while I was cooking dinner for us he started screaming at me, like an inch from my face and called me a (see you next Tuesday.) Something about it snapped some sense into me. I walked out and never went back.” — gamergirl007

“A month after he proposed, I got pretty sick (maybe Lyme disease, maybe some random virus, will probably never know) and remained pretty sick for almost a year. He didn’t cope with it well from the get-go, and six months into that basically started acting out in ways to make me end things because he didn’t have the balls to.” — carrieokieyogi

“I got sober and recognized some things that helped me realize we I didn’t want to marry that person. Still sober and happily married to the love of my life.” — forunna402

“I found out a week after he proposed that he was married to another person the whole time.” — xain_the_idiot