14 Concrete Signs Someone Is Suffering From Extreme Loneliness

Maybe you’re lonelier than you think. Or maybe the people around you are feeling lonely and you never picked up on the clues. Here are some signs someone is clearly suffering from loneliness, according to people from Ask Reddit:

“I constantly post on my Snapchat and Instagram story. Very random and pointless things, especially conversation starters. Like I’ll just post a random pretty selfie so I can TRY to start a convo.” — msanxiety247

“I can’t hold a conversation. I never know what to say because I don’t socialize a lot and I don’t wanna screw up my rare instances of socializing by saying something wrong or stuttering, instead I unintentionally ruin it by seeming uninterested or rude because I stay quiet or give very short responses, but it’s just to not seem annoying or awkward. It’s also because I have nothing to talk about. I haven’t done anything, I don’t talk to anyone, I don’t go anywhere… I have nothing to add to the conversation.” — msanxiety247

“When I finally DO go somewhere or do something, I post on my story TOO much. A simple walk in the park or trip to the zoo leaves me with 50 pics and videos on my Snap for people to just tap and skip through. I get so excited and it feels so good to be out in the world experiencing things and I want to experience it with someone so we can share the excitement and good feelings, but I tend to forget most people experience that feeling on daily basis so it’s normal for them hence it’s nothing special to them. I always hope, too, that they’ll see I’m not so ‘boring’ or be like ‘hey I like to do that too. That looks fun, we should hang out and do that together,’ but, to my regret, that never happens.” — msanxiety247

“They will hang out with people that treat them like shit just to not be alone.” — Things_Make_Me_Sneed

“Talking to themselves or to their pets a lot, almost like talking to another person.” — 94SWMPDG

“Dressing up to do simple errands. I spent two hours the other day doing a full face of makeup and styling my hair. I put on a cute new fall outfit – chunky knit cropped sweater, high waisted skirt, tights, knee socks, heeled boots, wavy hair, dark eye makeup, darker lip color – it was so cute…. all I did was go grocery shopping for 20 minutes and went home and took it all off…. That’s the highlight event of my month so where else am I gonna wear my cute new clothes and makeup to?” — msanxiety247

“Workaholic. They focus on getting praise from superiors at work to make up for what they are not getting in their personal life as well as to distract themselves. I’m one of them.” — Electrical-Ad1288

“It’s hard to end a conversation with them. I worked in a medical office and lot of my patients were old people who lived alone, they would talk forever if you let them. You can tell they don’t have much interaction and when they find someone to talk to they don’t want to conversation to end.” — OldSuccess9715

“They go out to crowded places by themselves to people watch just so it feels like they have company.” — protogens

“They’ll seem like an outcast, like they don’t even like people, like they are stuck up, or busy/focused on something else alone but they’re really watching everyone else talking and having fun with each other across the room. They’re not in a good mood about it at all, they’re jealous and have come to a conclusion that they are unfairly disliked, so F people also. Who needs em? It just seems…nice. If only.” — Mental-Ad-8756

“Weirdly, when someone who is usually outgoing starts withdrawing. I experienced this. I was isolating myself and lost a lot of friends because of it. But all I wanted was them to show up for me. I can’t explain it. But withdrawing is a sign.” — Ztormiebotbot

“They’ll ask about you and what you have going on but never really mention anything of substance about themselves. This is me, I talk to people about themselves because I have nothing to say about me.” — Ok-Individual-6261

“Replying multiple times to a Reddit thread hoping for conversation. When responses are negative to them, they still go on and on because negative attention is better than no attention at all.” — thebadhedgehog5

“Show a bit of friendliness and they will grab onto it like you’ve been best friends for ages. Might just be me though.” — Possessed_potato