14 Singles Explain How They Knew It Was Lust, Not Love

It’s easy to confuse lust and love. After all, you usually get swept up in new romances in the beginning. You’re so lost in the passion that you have trouble telling whether this is only temporary or meant to last. If you’re unsure where you stand with someone, here are a few ways other people were able to decipher that it was lust, not real love:

“When I made a pro/con list and I struggled to find pros not related to attractiveness or sexual skill.” — big_blonde_guy

“When I realized I didn’t like her personality when we were around other people. When you’re in love with someone, you love everything about them, even the little things that can be annoying. Yeah, you’re going to argue and get fed up sometimes, but the overarching thing is you’d rather ‘put up’ with the annoying little things than not be with them. But on the other side, when you avoid being around him/her when they’re with their friends (i.e. when they are themselves) you realize it probably isn’t love.” — [deleted]

“The only time I didn’t feel uncomfortably silent around him was when we were drunk or having sex.” — heyizabella

“When we began spending more time arguing than anything else… I knew.” — TITTY-PICS-INBOX-NAO

“When I spent the whole time with him waiting to have sex, or waiting for him to leave because the sex was over.” — Emily_Starke

“When I realized that I only liked the fact she was unbelievably sexy. We had completely opposite personalities, and her mindset towards everything just annoyed me. She found everything either boring, taxing, or below her. It was after my friend said ‘what do you see in her?’ to me that I realized I just didn’t have an answer to that.” — buffalog

“When she wanted to hang out, and before I said yes, I tried to figure out if we would be having sex or not. If not, then my answer was usually an excuse not to see her.” — enjoytheshow

“When you’re embarrassed to introduce them to your friends and family.” — [deleted]

“I stopped fantasizing about him once we had had sex. Not because he was bad at it, just because he wasn’t new.” — Nursejoyscuntysister

“When I realized that she wasn’t the girl I wanted to walk down the street with looking at shops and buying specialty tea. We spent a lot of time in bed or in her house, and that was fun, but she didn’t turn me on in a life way. I guess she made my genitals hard, but my heart and brain absent.” — [deleted]·

“When we woke up the next morning and tried to have a conversation. We had nothing to talk about.” — Anastik

“After sex I found her incredibly annoying.” — Reverse_Waterfall

“After a few months of dating, when we were no longer spending all our time together either fucking or exploring London. We was just at his relaxing with crap TV and a take away and I realized we had nothing to talk about and I actually found him mind numbingly dull.” — Gapeseed

“After she dumped me all I missed was the sex. And boy did I miss the sex.” — 74145852963