19 Guys Share Things They Wish Women Knew About Men’s Feelings
Sometimes feelings can seem elusive when it comes to the men in our lives. Us women often have our feelings right there on our sleeves, so it makes it seem like men donβt have them at all. Newsflash: They totally do. Men recently shared what they wish women knew about menβs feelings, and some of this is truly eye-opening.
That they have them.
That feelings have no gender and are not exclusive to women.
u/CaptainPrestedge
That feelings arenβt a weakness.
That they arenβt a sign of weakness.
u/gameld
Theyβre allowed to have feelings and emotions.
Weβre allowed to have them. Iβm a 250lb man in a job that on paper people think is heroic. It takes a toll and when I get emotional about what I have to see or do people dismiss it and pretend like Iβm weak.
u/bothonpele
They like hearing theyβre loved.
That we like hearing βi love youβ out of nowhere too.
u/neosurimi
They donβt have an outlet for their feelings.
That men are often not ever given a place to express their feelings safely.
This is why I recommend therapy to all my bros. It was the best decision of my whole life.
u/YoYoMoMa
What they look like on the outside might not match how they feel on the inside.
That we might not say it all out loud even if weβre totally broken emotionally. If we seem distant itβs probably because we have tens of years of trauma and mistakes playing on a loop in our heads. And the reason we donβt talk about it is because, at least for me I find it difficult to talk about my issues if I havenβt fully reached some sort of conclusion to those issues in my own head. Itβs easier to just sit there quietly and wait for time to pass.
If we donβt seem enthusiastically happy and hyped up about every minute of the day it doesnβt mean weβd had lost interest in you, weβre just tired to a point where our brain literally stops functioning. We still are enthusiastically happy and hyped up just about spending that time with you, even if weβd physically look like weβre bored to death. If weβre there for the cuddles we love you, and boy do we love those cuddles more than we like to admit.
I guess what Iβm trying to say here is that our appearance to you might look different than what we actually think and feel. I could be having the best time of my life and Iβll look like I wanna end it all and I hate it here just because brain decided to βrandom bullshit goβ all the trauma on us just like that out of nowhere.
u/shoesvw3
They mean what they say.
When I say βhey this bothers me, please donβt do itβ I mean βhey this bothers me, please donβt do it.β
Donβt act all fucking surprised when I get bothered when you do the thing I politely asked you not to do.
u/Sepapa
All guys are different.
Not all guys are the same. Not all guys just think about sex especially when actively seeking a relationship. Oh and we have emotions.
u/TotalGamer12
They want to know you care.
That just asking us how we are and meaning it could brighten their day and theyβll treasure it forever
That just listening is more then anyone else has done for them
u/DaGamingTurtleB
That silence is terrible sign.
The moment we go silent we are much more angry than the moment we shout
u/Confident-Abrocoma79
And their silence is meaningful.
Sometimes silence is a sign of irredeemable disappointment
u/Stunning-Spirit5275
Just because they arenβt expressing them, doesnβt mean they donβt have emotions.
If someone goes silent or completely unemotional during an argument donβt needle them with why arenβt you showing emotion and why donβt you fight for this relationship.
Maybe itβs because I know that my current emotions arenβt healthy to express verbally at the moment and Iβm trying to very carefully not to yell something while angry that I donβt mean.
Not expressing emotions isnβt the same as not having them.
u/joeydee93
That theyβre emotions shouldnβt be discounted.
That it really frustrates us when every negative feeling we have is chalked down to βheβs insecureβ or βfragile male egoβ or βtoxic masculinityβ when women have all the same negative feelings we do. π
u/HeelSteamboat
That they donβt want to seem like a burden.
Many guys feel like being open causes a burden onto others and just try to put on a smile and keep it to themselves.
u/_W9NDER_
Itβs hard for them to open up.
Its really hard to finally lay down our guard, expose our vulnerabilities and feel something genuine. Please donβt abuse it.
u/uberst0ic
Their feelings deserve equal consideration.
That if she cant care for them on the same level that shes asking us to care for hers⦠she better leave.
u/InterestingEgg3721
They might not be in touch with their feelings.
Men are pretty straightforward when they talk about what they feel or think yet are very out of touch with them.
u/SmolAnus
Theyβve been taught to suppress.
Menβs feelings are like an iceberg. What your seeing is only about 1/3rd of whatβs going on inside. Weβve been trained since childhood to suppress the rest of them.
u/Decent-Box5009
They get caught up in the façade.
The majority of us arenβt really sex driven monsters, its just a faΓ§ade around our friends. We just wanna be loved.
u/OK_Frosting_9178