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3 Things To Do When You’re Worried He’s Bored Of The Relationship

Relationships are a two-way street. It is not your job to keep your partner entertained like a child, but it s a good idea to make sure the relationship is still exciting and enjoyable for the two of you and that you’re still putting in an effort just as much as they are.

If you’re starting to worry that he’s getting bored, here are some things you can do:

Suggest a fun date night.

Try to do something fun you can do together, like going to the movies or a concert. Maybe even doing something you both have never done before, like taking a pottery class or going golfing. You could even get all dressed up to go to a fancy restaurant — or even to Applebees or McDonalds could be fun and different. Even just having a candlelight, romantic dinner at home could be nice, as long as you’re spending time together.

Spice things up in the bedroom.

Ask him if there’s anything he wants to try in bed. Maybe even surprise him with a fantasy he likes! Just make sure there’s consent.

Talk to him.

That’s it, really. If you get a sense that he’s bored of the relationship — or even starting to get bored — talk to him about it. He might not know how to bring it up to you, which is why he’s not speaking up about it (though he should). Don’t bottle up your anxiety about whether or not he’s actually bored and don’t let him bottle up his feelings either! Communication is key. Talk to each other.

Oftentimes in relationships, we can confuse comfortability for boredom. If you’re getting the sense that he might be bored, it’s important to ask him about it just as it’s important to also ask yourself if you’re bored too. Ask yourself if this is what you want.