You will need to cut ties to certain people that you have been hanging onto longer than necessary. You will need to put yourself before your relationship with them and accept that you’re better off parting ways. Even though you might care about this person, that doesn’t mean that there is space for them in this new life you’re creating for yourself. It doesn’t mean that they should remain in your orbit when they’ve only been bringing you down. Remember, just because someone played an important role in your past doesn’t mean that they need to be dragged along to your future. If it’s time to go separate ways, then don’t put it off any longer. Get it over with so you can start your solo journeys.
You will need to make a change that you’ve been avoiding for a long period of time. A change that has the potential to alter the direction of your life. But you need to remember, not all change is negative. Quitting a relationship or friendship isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes it’s the best possible move to make. Even though you don’t want to cause any hurt feelings or stir up any drama, you need to do what is best for the person in the mirror. It’s not selfish to prioritize your own mental health and well-being. Which is why you need to stop procrastinating. Stop telling yourself that it’s better to do this tomorrow and actually make the move today. Say goodbye to the person (or people) who are making life harder on you.
You’re a fixer. You never want to say goodbye prematurely – but you’ve already put in the effort. You’ve already said everything you could say and made all the changes you could make from your side. But it takes two people to make a relationship work, and if they aren’t willing to do a damn thing, there’s no choice left. You need to leave. You need to choose yourself over them because they are clearly putting their own desires before you. Remember, even if you are technically the one who is walking away, that doesn’t mean this was your fault. They drove you to do this. They made it so that you had no other choice, except to suffer. And you don’t deserve to suffer. You deserve to feel loved and appreciated. You deserve to feel safe and secure.
Sometimes, you’re too nice. Your kindness is a quality that should make you proud – but there comes a time when you can’t keep pretending everything is okay. You can’t keep giving this person permission to treat you like a punching bag. Your kindness should extend to yourself – and you deserve to be surrounded by people who respect you. You shouldn’t settle for unfair treatment, even if you have a soft spot for this person. Even if you understand that they don’t have it easy. Most people don’t have it easy, but that’s not an excuse to be cruel. That’s not an excuse to hurt the people they’re supposed to care about the most. And if they can’t treat you well, you owe it to yourself to walk away. If you don’t do it for yourself, do it for the people who look up to you, who view you as a role model.