5 Concrete Signs He’s Not Your Forever Person (He’s Just A Nice Guy)
Just because he’s a nice guy doesn’t mean you’re meant to spend forever together. You should be looking for more than a good man. You should be looking for the perfect person for you specifically. Don’t feel bad about walking away from a nice guy because if the following things are true, he’s just not meant for you:
Your arguments are respectful, but you don’t really solve anything.
Even though you might try to come to compromises, someone is always left unhappy because you want such different things. You simply aren’t on the same page about what you want out of the relationship now and/or in the future. You listen to each other and try to be there for each other as best you can, but it’s hard when your interests never align.
You feel comfortable around him, but you don’t feel any chemistry.
He’s perfectly nice. He treats you well. You don’t have any active complaints about the way he behaves in the relationship. But you don’t have any raving reviews about him either. You aren’t interested in staying up until two in the morning talking to him. You don’t count down the moments until you see him. You don’t gush to your friends about how wonderful he is and how you want to spend forever together. He’s fine, but he’s not getting your heart racing the way your person should.
Doing sweet things for him feels like a chore.
When you’re with the right person, you want to make them happy. You’re willing to go out of your way for them to do sweet things because you care. But when you’re with the wrong person, something as simple as driving twenty minutes to see them or answering their texts feels like a chore. You find it hard to put effort into the relationship and end up in a lopsided one-sided situation where they’re doing most of the work, which isn’t fair to them or you.
You have an okay time together, but you would rather be doing other things.
Whenever you go on dates, you’re only half present. Your mind is on other things because you aren’t as invested in the relationship as you should be. You might wish you were hanging out with your friends instead or being productive at work because hanging out with them doesn’t feel like the best use of your time. Sure, you’ve had some fun moments together, but hanging out with them isn’t at the top of your priority list. It isn’t even close.
The thought of losing them doesn’t feel scary, it feels like a relief.
You shouldn’t remain in a relationship because you feel guilty about leaving or because you don’t have a good enough reason to walk away. If you’re not entirely happy, that’s a good enough reason. You don’t owe them your time, your attention, or your heart. It’s never fun to hurt a good guy, but it’s better to rip off the bandage than to lead them on when your heart is not entirely in it. You both deserve so much more.