7 Concrete Signs You’re A Secret Hopeless Romantic
Believing in love? In this economy? That’s what a hopeless romantic does best. And if you relate to any of these seven concrete signs, you just might be one yourself (even if you refuse to say so out loud).
You just love love.
Romantic comedies? Soulmate theories? Proposal YouTube videos? Yes, yes, andddd YES. But strictly in the privacy of your own head, of course.
You don’t do casual.
You don’t believe in one-night stands or casual hookups or situationships. While you may claim this is because you’re “too busy” to dabble in such bygone love affairs, it is actually because you know you’d get attached and fall for the other person anyway. You just feel too embarrassed to admit this fact. After all, dating today is all about playing it cool and not getting attached. Right?
You fall quickly and completely.
When you’re a secret hopeless romantic, quiet about it or not, you fall fast and you fall hard when you start dating someone new. You become invested rapidly. While you may not vocalize your feelings right away, you know you’ve fallen.
You ignore red flags.
When you’re at the beginning of a new relationship, you are wearing rose-colored glasses. You might not realize you’re putting up with the bare minimum or being mistreated. You might not see that their “flaws” are just red flags. Not only that, but you believe in second chances. You always give someone the benefit of the doubt.
You give a lot in your relationships.
Maybe a little too much, if you’re being honest with yourself. This can lead you to have many one-sided relationships.
You put your partner’s needs and desires before your own. You might even swallow your feelings as a means of not wanting to disturb the peace between you two. You give and you give, so much that you don’t even realize they’re not giving the same.
Remember, there’s a difference between giving love because you genuinely love, and giving love for reassurance.
You’ve had your heart broken more times than you can count.
Because you fall fast and hard, you are more prone to getting your heart broken. When you ignore the red flags, settle for the bare minimum, and let yourself get mistreated, you are ultimately neglecting yourself and your needs, and this can lead to heartbreak.
Your vulnerability and willingness to keep trying is something to be admired, though. You should be proud of that.
But even after all of the heartbreak you’ve endured, you still believe in love.
You have an incredibly optimistic view of love. You still believe there are good people out there, and that there’s a good person on their way to you. You still believe love is worth all the heartache you’ve endured.