16 Men Reveal Their Biggest Insecurity As A Boyfriend Or Husband
Men aren’t always as confident as they appear. They get self-conscious, too. Here are a few comments from real men who reveal the biggest source of their insecurity in their relationship:
“I’m worried that I’ve gotten boring. I don’t think I’m any more boring than the average dude, but since we’ve been together for so long, I don’t really have a lot of mystery and excitement left.” — DAFERG
“I lack a lot of confidence in my sexual performance. Due to having what I believe is less experience than the majority of my peers as well as a poor stamina.” — Dacontrolfreek
“That I’m not worthy of her. She’s the total package and I’m just… me. What makes it really crazy is that we have been together for almost 34 years and I still feel this way. In no way, shape, or form has she shown me that this might be true. She’s literally the perfect partner.” — HatesNewUsernames
“Giving them the feeling of not being there for them enough. I tend to be very quiet and introverted. I’ve been told several times that I’m too much in my head and that they have the feeling I’m not ‘actually there’. But I try to work on it and be more open about my feelings and stuff.” — No-Education818
“Being able to afford giving my family the life the deserve, because they deserve it.” — time2pivot
“Not being as good a provider as I know I could be. What am I working for, anyway?” —hkfskhsfuhkefshkf
“Overly high sex drive/vicious adhd = constantly horny unfocused husband.” — erolswife
“I play with my daughter all the time but at the end of the day, she always prefers mummy.” — madeinthearcade
“That I cannot fix every problem they have and that I am not always the problem when they’re upset. I have to let them be upset and understand it’s not always me and it’s okay to just listen to them.” — DankMemesMateus
“That I am not good enough, in any sense of the word, and that my partner is ‘just settling’ because I’m stable. Can’t help but feel sometimes they’re just waiting for something better to come along, you know?” — ACalcifiedHeart
“That when she says, ‘it’s okay’ it’s not okay.” — PetuniaWhale
“Other men making her uncomfortable by flirting with her on a girls night out, or even worse, her liking it. Just the fact that I only can know if she tells me, or somebody that I know sees it, makes me insecure.” — Theis_Lykke
“I’m an athletic guy but I’m constantly scared of not being able to protect them, if some 250 pound fighter disrespects or hurts her then I have no idea what I’d ever do.” — hawks4life15
“For me it’s feeling like I’m a drag on my partners life. I have several health issues that leave me in extreme pain near constantly, constantly sleep deprived and without any energy or motivation to do anything besides lay in bed and watch TV or listen to music while cuddling with my girlfriend. Meanwhile my girlfriend is a perfectly healthy, energetic and full of life young adult who wants new experiences and doesn’t want to spend a minute more than she needs to resting. I try my best to keep up and if i can’t do a certain activity she wants to try, I actively encourage her to do whatever it is she is wanting to do (i.e go to an amusement park, go on a road trip, go carting, activities like that) with her friends, but at the end of the day the unavoidable truth is I am a damper on her life and I don’t see why someone like that is willing to be in a relationship with someone like me.” — dman2316
“That I’m not good enough and she’s settling for me while fantasizing about some toxic ‘bad boy’ that she truly desires, or she meets that toxic bad boy at a bar/club but still settles for me because I ‘take care of her’ emotionally. All the while she thinks about him when we have sex. Basically the entire show of Sex/Life is my insecurity.” — Organic-Ad9474
“Not being enough for her. I know I work my butt off at work and am emotionally supportive. However, there’s always that voice that says you need to be more, it’s not enough, try harder. So, I push the living hell outta myself.” — PunkedRebel