4 Zodiac Signs Who Have Trouble Saying “I Love You”

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In a world that is often hard, cold, cruel, callous, and sometimes downright sadistic, one of the most dangerous things you can do is tell a person you love them. If you say it to someone who’s manipulative or is always playing power games with others, you’ve just opened yourself up to a world of hurting.

It’s a cliché that the person who cares the least has the power in a relationship. But while that may be true in some cases, if a person is concerned about power, that’s not a loving relationship—it’s basically S&M. Love is all about mutual support, not a crass game to see who comes out on top.

Here are four zodiac signs that don’t have trouble feeling strong emotions—they just have trouble putting them into words.

1. Virgo

Ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication, one would think that Virgos would be masters of orally expressing their emotions. But this is only half-true—they are much better at expressing what’s in their brains than what’s in their hearts. Due to a fear of being hurt, an innate vulnerability, and a sense of dignity that makes them self-conscious about appearing corny or sappy, they hide both negative and positive emotions. They are not only shy about expressing how they feel, but also about what they need. This quirk of theirs only applies to the spoken word, though—if you give them a pen and a piece of paper, they’ll write you the sweetest love letter you’ve ever read.

2. Taurus

A fixed Earth sign, the Bull is widely understood as strong, self-sufficient, independent, and stubborn. Ironically, that’s all based on a misunderstanding, and it’s also proof on why you should never judge someone based on outward appearances. Tauruses can, in fact, be very needy—they simply don’t want to look that way. And for all that it may seem that they are they are self-contained and hyper-confident, this, too, is an illusion. They tend to think far less of themselves than others think of them. In reality, they need others like a flower needs water.

3. Aquarius

The Zen Buddhist of the zodiac, Aquarius may seem aloof, but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel things very deeply. They are simply more dignified than other signs. They don’t like public displays of emotion, they hate people who are overdramatic or effusively emotional in any regard, and they realize that talk is cheap, whereas actions take effort. When it comes to expressing love, they are from the “actions speak louder than words” school. Rather than just saying “I love you,” they prefer to show it. Rather than sending you a heart emoji via text, they’d prefer to help you out in a time of need. 

4. Cancer

Ironically, the most emotional of all the signs is also the most fearful of showing their emotions, which is why nature provided them with that hard Crab shell. They are so aware of their feelings, as well as the fact that they sense they feel things far more deeply than others do, that they fear they might come on a little too strong if they verbalize what they’re feeling. They just need a little coaxing to express what they really feel. It’s best to understand this if you’re falling in love with a Cancer—all it takes for them to say “I love you” is for you to say it first. The rest will be easy.