12 Toxic Behaviors That Seem Perfectly Fine At First

“Dating someone and then taking over their life. Not snooping on their phone or anything really egregious but occupying all their free time. I wish I was more assertive about this when I was younger instead of thinking this is what relationships are.” — DrunkPole

“Over-optimism. Encouraging you to ignore the red flags, saying it’s not so bad, you have to focus on the good parts, to compromise, to sacrifice, can’t give up so easily, nothing’s perfect, you need to work for it. Then you find yourself stuck in an awful toxic job, or relationship, or whatever, which you should have avoided in the first place.” — malsomnus

“Wanting an echo chamber of people who are afraid to challenge you. Growth happens where you are criticized, without it you won’t have a clue what you’re doing wrong or could be doing better.” — Backburning

“I would say problem dumping to a certain extent. I used to do this but if it is personal and not other’s business sometimes you should not mention it as it could be making them uncomfortable or could be used for future manipulation.” — Submissive-Coleman

“Crowd pleasing. Needing to take pictures to post. Like just enjoy the moment. Please. Also being buried on the phone while with people. It’s very distasteful and takes away from your present to give people who aren’t around you your attention. I HATE that crap.” — Internal-Bit4321

“Telling everyone and their uncle you’re praying for them. I think it’s a way to seem like you’re helping someone without really doing anything. Worse is people who act like their prayers are responsible for someone else’s achievement.” — Round_Guard_8540

“Gossip. It’s reputation sabotage. Spreading false, misleading, negative or private information about people, disparaging them. Super mean. I can’t do it, but I feel like most people do.” — MajorBrooklyn

“Talking about your sex life constantly. Even worse, the people that think being reserved about sex means you’re sheltered or repressed. I’m not repressed or infringing on your sexuality because I don’t want to hear about your poly threesomes and that everyone who engages in monogamy simply isn’t enlightened yet. We’re mad because you’re ruining the board game night by telling us for the fourth time in an hour.” — dishonourableaccount

“The people who make excuses for someone’s behavior because it’s just who they are. I don’t care who they are. If they’re being assholes, I’m not tolerating it. Simple as that.” — MADDOGCA

“The belief that having good intentions automatically makes you infallible. Politics, parenting, actions informed by religion (or lack thereof,) etc.” — thebreak22

“For me personally it’s when people act like you don’t have a disability because you’re low needs and when you do struggle you get shamed for it and people act like you’re lazy and tell you you’re not trying hard enough. Everyone throughout my childhood had this attitude.” — scrambledbrain25

“People who claim they went through ego death and then holds that stuff above others. It shows they never lost the ego and just became more of a jerk.” — Lilium_fur2