How To Have Sugar Baby Energy Without A Sugar Daddy

Sugar babies just exude a certain mystique. You know the attitude. They ask for what they want, and they get it. But there’s that whole trouble of actually having a sugar daddy. Getting funded by a creepy old man doesn’t sound that appealing. Good news: You can skip the sugar daddy and still give off serious sugar baby energy. So, how do you get that gravitational pull? The fuck you attitude? The sky-rocketing confidence? Here’s a tip: You don’t need the man.

Dress to impress…yourself!

Screw dressing all cute for a sugar daddy. You know who’s opinion matters the most? Yours! So dress in a way that makes you feel beautiful and special. Make your Pinterest fashion boards a reality now, for you. And if you don’t have sugar daddy money, there’s no shame in buying used. Try Poshmark, ThredUp, or even your local consignment shops.

Have a list of boundaries, and enforce them.

Sugar babies–the successful ones, anyway–are queens at setting and enforcing boundaries with their sugar daddies. They say what they will and won’t do, and what they expect in return. They have the true power in the relationship. Honestly, all of us could use that kind of badass energy, even those of us lacking in the daddy department. Boundaries, my girl. Boundaries. Set ’em, and get rid of anyone who doesn’t respect ’em.

Be picky, because you can.

Sugar babies don’t just choose any ol’ daddy. They pick the ones who respect them, who don’t give off bad vibes, who do what they’ve promised. That kind of vibe shouldn’t be exclusive to the baby/daddy relationship. Even if you’re dating a regular dude, skip the bare minimum men and wait out for a guy who sees what you’re worth. Speaking of which…

Know your worth, which is a lot.

Sugar babies are great at knowing what they’re worth and accepting nothing else. That means not only monetary worth but the kind of behavior they’re worth as well. You’re a goddamn catch, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You’re everything. You’re a 10. Think about it this way: You could have a sugar daddy if you wanted to. You just don’t want that life.

Choose confidence, always.

The reason why I say “choose” confidence is because it really is a choice. If you’re not feeling it naturally, just fake it till you make it, hot stuff. Walk the world with your head held high. Channel the sugar baby energy and strut your stuff. There are sugar babies of all shapes, sizes, and ethnicities, too. We should all have the confidence of a successful sugar baby.

Live large, no matter the budget.

Sugar babies’ Instagrams are often filled with pics of glamorous adventures. Wine on the beach, hair blowing on the wind as they spend the weekend on a yacht in the Mediterranean. Most of us can’t fund that kind of thing without a daddy, but that doesn’t mean you should be sitting at home instead. Go on local adventures. Toast to your friends at brunch. Sunbathe in the park.

Live that special life of yours, daddy-free baby. You’ve got this.