How To Win A Guy Over On The First Date

“The quickest way to win someone over? Don’t play to win! I’d much rather go on a date with someone who is genuinely interested in getting to know one another. What are each other’s values, personally traits, interests, ambitions, and do these align with or complement our own? Is this a person who I’d genuinely like to get to know on a deeper level? Ironically, when you stop playing to win and focus on genuine connection, you’re giving yourself what you need for success. Personal growth is hella attractive.” — imaginarysunday

“When someone genuinely laughs at something I said, even if it’s not a joke. Like a real, genuine laugh. Bonus points if they make me laugh in return, even better if its at my own expense. Fearless humor, with tact, is so hot.” — KarenDankman

“As a dude, probably a basic compliment. They’re so rare for us that when I get a compliment I can feel warmth in my heart. Due to never receiving compliments, I have become poor at receiving them. I usually become very awkward and self-deprecating in response.” — catdaddy-07

“Bad puns and the ability to hold a conversation are panty dropping qualities.” — Pamplem0usse__

“Be open about nerding out if you’re interested in something. Do that and I’ll trust you with my credit card number.” — RebirthAltair

“I hate myself for saying this because it sounds like I am fishing for approval, but I genuinely get turned on by intelligence, competence, and a quick wit. Chicks who can code? Hot. When I met my wife I was eyeing up both her and her friend. After a long conversation with the two, my wife was the one getting the Shakespeare references, wordplay, historical references, etc. Her poor friend was lost the whole conversation. It was an easy decision after that. Here we are 30 years later.” — lividimp

“I’m a male, I love playing physically! Something active will make me happy. Softcore rough housing.” — Sensitive_Leek_2950

“If she can lower her guard and be genuine and real, she’ll have my full attention. Dates that are too formal aren’t so much fun.” — AnotherDrunkCanadian

“Just be nice and be yourself. It’s honestly so relieving to be treated like a human nowadays. I don’t know why toxic traits have been such a trend but I just want a break.” — 2frenchfries321

“I am a guy, so I love when I’m on a date with a girl and she talks about what she does or her passion, and I see the twinkle in her eyes when she talks about it and explains it to me so that I can appreciate it. That’s the kind of woman I want to grow old with.” — Leather-Mogul

“Being cuddly very much helps, though granted my idea of a date is watching TV and holding hands under a blanket.” — Demonslayer90

“Ideally touch me somewhere – arm, face, hand, really doesn’t matter. I’m completely oblivious to signals, so just bypass my stupid brain that is constantly locked in overdrive-mode and talk to my body instead. My brain will follow with a slight delay.” — Look-Its-a-Name

“Show interest. I can’t be be the only one who talks, and gets one syllable answers in return.” — Far-Concert-8012

“Actually show up. Be engaged in the conversation. Show an interest in my life and interests. Compliment me. Honestly just those basic things make a woman stand out, because I’ve found that generally most women don’t really make all that much of an effort with me like that. I kinda just wanna be seen, acknowledged and appreciated, that’s enough for me.” — GemoDorgon