The 5 Personality Traits Of An Emotionally Unavailable Man

Emotional unavailability can manifest in different ways. This is a quite common thing in men, especially ones who find themselves in situationships. Here are some common personality traits that may be associated with an emotionally unavailable man:

Avoidance of emotional intimacy.

He doesn’t open up to you. He doesn’t open up to anyone, really. He may struggle to connect with others on an emotional level and may avoid sharing his own emotions or feelings. He may feel uncomfortable or threatened by vulnerability, and may have a hard time opening up to others.

Not only does he avoid talking about his feelings entirely, but he won’t respond to your emotional side at all. In fact, he may struggle to empathize with others. He feels somewhat disconnected from people, especially romantic partners.

Tendency to prioritize work or other obligations over relationships.

Prioritizing work or hanging out with friends is fine. Not having your sole focus on a relationship is also fine. However, if he’s only focusing on those things and rarely makes an effort into hanging out with you, he is most likely a commitment-phobe. He’s keeping his distance from you, your emotions, his emotions, and the possibility of deepening a connection.

Closed off communication.

If he cancels or changes plans or is inconsistent with communication, he’s keeping his distance. He doesn’t want you getting attached just as much as he doesn’t want to get attached. He might be closed off and guarded in his texts because he just can’t deal with feelings and emotions. And that’s on him.

Preference for physical intimacy over emotional intimacy.

Physical intimacy is a natural part of a romantic relationship. In fact, it’s quite common for men to initiate an only-physical, no-strings-attached relationship before establishing an emotional connection. However, if he’s one of the emotionally unavailable ones, he won’t even bother establishing that emotional connection. He deflects your attempts to talk about your feelings and only ever wants to be physically intimate. It’s less threatening that way.

Inability to commit.

Maybe he doesn’t like to put a label on your relationship. Maybe he doesn’t talk about the future. Maybe he isn’t considerate of you, your time, and your feelings when making plans. If this is the case, then he might have commitment issues. If you bring up taking your relationship to the next level and he deflects and changes the subject, he might be an emotionally unavailable commitment-phobe.