You are such a force of nature, and I mean that in the very best way. Life can be so much at times, but if anyone can keep picking themselves up and keep going, it’s you. Just know that choosing to rest and do what’s best for your well-being doesn’t make you any less of a powerhouse. Everyone needs a break sometime—even you.
Tell yourself: I am a force of nature, but I deserve some rest.
Even when you feel like you’re doing your worst, you’re still putting in more effort than some people’s very best. And that’s not to disparage the work of others, it’s just that you have a tendency to put your heart and soul into the things you do. You want to be the best, and you’re getting there—just remember that it’s a journey and that it might take time. Be patient with yourself and your growth.
Tell yourself: I am doing the best I can, and that is good enough.
Your brain is a beautiful place to be, but on your worst days, you also have a tendency to overthink and overanalyze. You can be tougher on yourself than necessary, which can make an already difficult situation so much harder to handle. Just know that it’s easier to criticize yourself in hindsight and that we’re all just doing the best we can right now, even you. Let that be enough.
Tell yourself: I am doing okay, no matter what the voice in my head tries to convince me.
You’re so mindful about creating safe, comfortable spaces for your loved ones, but what about you? Are you putting in the work to create the most healthy, loving space for yourself? Are you surrounding yourself with people who make room in their heart just for you, too? It’s important that you have somewhere to go to recharge, to rest, to be your most authentic self.
Tell yourself: I deserve the same love and kindness that I give others—both from my loved ones and from myself.
Your presence is magnetic, but sometimes you get so used to having all eyes on you that you start to feel like you’re performing for everyone else. Remember that you are allowed to let the mask slip, to let people know what you’re truly feeling inside. You don’t have to pretend you’re okay if you’re not.
Tell yourself: It is okay to be honest about how I feel—both with others and with myself.
You’re the kind of person who prefers to be ahead of the game, so it’s harder on you than most when you feel like you’re falling behind. But know this: There is no set timeline in life, and even if you’re struggling to keep up with your work now, you are going to get to a place where you feel stable again. Trust that you will make it through.
Tell yourself: What I am doing now is enough, and where I am now is right where I need to be.
You have a talent for seeing the gray area in life, so why are you so hard on yourself? You always tell yourself you can be better, you can be more. But this mindset makes you not only overlook the good qualities you already possess but also pushes you to push yourself to the point of burnout. It’s important you take a step back and, instead of looking for the things you can do better, celebrate the things you already do so well.
Tell yourself: I am doing great just as I am; I do not need to be anything more than who I am right now.
You are such a strong, deep person, but the problem is that when you’re struggling, you have a hard time reaching out. It’s not just that you’re afraid of what happens when you show this vulnerability, it’s also that, quite frankly, you just don’t know where to start. You’re too used to your tough shell, your self-reliance. But please know that it is okay to turn to someone when you’re in need, to open up to those who love you.
Tell yourself: My emotions are valid, and the people who love me want to be there for me.
You are such a fiery, wonderful spirit, but sometimes when you’re going through a tough time, you do everything you can to avoid the root problem. You may be in denial about what’s going on or could be running away from your problems. But I hope you know you’re safe to explore these difficult emotions, and while it may not be fun, it’s better for you to be honest with yourself and take the steps you need to in order to get the help you need. You will make it through this.
Tell yourself: I am safe to feel these emotions now, and then I can let them pass.
You have such big plans for your life, and while that’s admirable, it can also be difficult for you when you feel like you aren’t meeting your own expectations. Just know that even though you may not see yourself in the best light in these moments, other people still recognize your worth and see how well you’re doing. If you could step out of your life and witness it as a bystander, you would be amazed at all you have done and all you are doing.
Tell yourself: I am exactly where I’m supposed to be in life; I am proud of myself for getting here.
You are so great at navigating life’s ups and downs, but sometimes when things become too overwhelming, you feel disconnected from the world around you. You may feel more alone than ever, to the point where reaching out for help might even feel unfathomable. But please know you are never as alone as you think you are and that there are people there to pull you to safety, if only you would hold out your hand.
Tell yourself: I am not alone; it is safe to reach out for help when I need it most.
You are so in tune with your own emotions, as well as the emotions of those around you, but because of that, when things get tough, it can often feel like drowning. You may feel yourself wanting to recede from the world and suffocate in your emotions, and while it’s okay to feel through your feelings, it’s also important for you to remember that this situation, while difficult, is fleeting. The only way out may be through, but you will make it to the other side—a brighter side.
Tell yourself: I am allowed to sit with my emotions, but I also know they are temporary—things will get better.