The Red Flags Each Birth Month Should Never Ignore
Sometimes love makes us overlook the things we know we shouldn’t. But patterns don’t lie, and neither do your instincts.
Each birth month has certain relationship dynamics they’re more sensitive to, whether they realize it or not. If something feels off, it probably is. Here are the red flags your birth month should never brush aside, no matter how strong the feelings are.
April
Lack of effort: Laziness or just inability to make you feel like you matter in your relationship is an immediate red flag for someone born in April trying to find their forever person.
Laziness: As someone born in April you’re full of energy, you can’t be with someone who doesn’t have any.
Unmotivated: You don’t set goals just to have them, you set them to attain them. You can’t be with someone who doesn’t have motivation to better themselves and their life.
May
Insecurity: As someone born in May you’re stable and grounded, and you don’t want to spend your time constantly reassuring someone that you love them when you’ve already made that very clear. You don’t have time for insecurity in your relationships.
Someone who constantly needs change: You don’t do well with change. You like your routine. It’s what you know and what’s comfortable for you. If you’re trying to date someone who thrives with change and gets restless when things begin to settle down, it just won’t work.
Inauthenticity: You are a very genuine person and you believe everyone should be their authentic self. If you’re dating someone who you have a feeling is just not sincere or real, then leave the relationship as soon as possible.
June
Indecisive: As someone born in June you’re indecisive enough on your own. You can’t sustain a relationship made of two people who can’t make up their mind. One person needs to take somewhat of a lead.
Controlling: You don’t like to feel limited. You want your options to feel endless, and if you’re trying to date someone who limits them, you’ll feel trapped.
Home-body: You have a lot of energy and you’re a social butterfly. You want to get out and interact. You won’t be happy in a relationship unless it’s with someone who’s willing to go out and adventure with you, and not just stay at home.
July
Insensitive: As someone born in July, you are an emotional human being. You need someone who handles those emotions gently, someone who attempts to understand them and doesn’t get angry or frustrated when they can’t. You need to be with someone who will respond to your emotions with kindness and understanding.
Cold: You need a partner who is affectionate, someone who’s not afraid to express how much they love you. Those born in July can’t date someone who’s cold or shut-off. It just won’t work.
Irresponsible: You’re a pretty traditional person, and for this reason, you should date someone who has their shit together. You want to be with someone who makes you feel safe and protected, and if they’re irresponsible it’s just going to make you feel insecure and uncertain of where this relationship is really going.
August
Needs to always be the center of attention: There’s only room for one of these people in each relationship, and you’re already that person. You enjoy being the center of attention, if your partner enjoys that too, your relationship will just be one big competition.
Distant: You can’t be with someone who’s distant because you need a lot of attention, and you’re willing to admit it. You like when your partner texts you all day and all night and you think something’s wrong if they don’t. You don’t want to feel distance in your relationship, you want someone who you can feel close to.
Bossy: You like to take the lead and you sometimes give advice when it’s not asked for. You can’t have two leaders in a relationship, you’ll feel frustrated and most likely get defensive when they try to tell you how to do something.
September
Detached: As someone born in September you need a partner who’s more clingy than detached. You struggle to accept that you’re worthy of love and you like to have your partner’s reassurance. You need them to express their love constantly and consistently.
Someone who tries to rush things along: You need time to open up to someone and you’ll shut down if you feel rushed.
Inconsiderate: You need a partner who not only attempts to understand your feelings, but has a general consideration for other people’s feelings as well. Someone who has a tendency to be rude to other people, even if they are just strangers, really won’t work for you.
October
Unreasonable: As someone born in October, you are all about being fair. If you’re trying to date someone who makes unreasonable demands or sets unreasonable expectations you’ll be completely unhappy.
Aggressive: You notoriously avoid confrontation so if you’re with someone who often initiates arguments and disagreements you’ll shut down. You need a partner who is gentle and kind, not someone who always thinks they’re right and asserts themselves as if they are.
Rebel: You don’t like to break the rules. You value truth and honesty and don’t believe rules are made to be broken. You need a partner who’s willing to follow the rules with you, rather than challenge them.
November
Dishonest: As someone born in November honesty is everything. You can’t date someone who twists the truth and you definitely can’t date someone who blatantly lies.
Indifferent: You’re passionate and assertive, and you like to date people who have an opinion, even if it’s different from your own. You don’t want someone who doesn’t care, you want someone who has a strong mindset and stands up for their beliefs.
Impatient: It takes you time to fully trust someone. You need a partner who understands that and who has the patience to wait it out.
December
Clingy: You need your freedom and independence. You can’t be with someone who needs to be in contact with you 24/7. Clinginess makes you feel suffocated when it comes to relationships.
Someone who’s really reserved: You’re adventurous and always looking to try new things, you can’t be with someone who likes to remain in the center of their comfort zone. You need someone who’s willing to venture outside of it with you.
Someone who cares too much about what other people think: You don’t live your life worrying about what everyone else thinks of you, you live it for yourself. If the person you’re dating limits themselves because of other people’s opinions, they’re not right for you.
January
Know it all: You can’t date a know it all because, honestly, you think you know it all. You can’t date someone who insists that they’re right because that’s exactly what you do.
Stubborn: You can’t handle stubbornness. You need someone who’s willing to compromise on the things that matter. You’re not a huge fan of giving up what you want, so you need someone who’s flexible and understands that.
Scatterbrained: You’re an extremely driven and focused person. You just don’t relate romantically to people who are impractical or idealistic.
February
Super emotional: You’re terrified of emotions so you need to stay far away from overly-sensitive people in terms of dating. Tears completely freak you out and you don’t know how to respond. Steer clear of the cryers.
Materialistic: You can’t be with someone who’s materialistic. You’re an intellectual and you’d rather talk about the latest book you read than keep a conversation going about how velvet made a come back.
Someone who can’t keep their promises: Your word means everything to you, and when someone else can’t keep theirs it upsets you. Don’t have a relationship with someone who promises you the whole world and only gives you half.
March
Closed-off: You’re super passionate when it comes to love and relationships, and you like to feel close to the people you’re dating. Don’t try breaking down the door of someone who’s closing you out, date someone who lets you in.
Ungrateful: You have a lot of love to give but you shouldn’t date someone who takes it for granted. When you date someone who doesn’t truly appreciate you, love will make you feel exhausted instead of energized.
Pessimistic: You believe hope and positive attitude can really make an impact. You’re a dreamer and you need someone who’s willing to support you. You need a partner who believes in you.