What Every Zodiac Sign Needs To Hear Before December 19

Aries

The fear of missing out can be so real for you. It’s not that you need to be the center of attention, but sometimes you worry that if you aren’t always in the middle of what’s going on, you’ll fall out of touch or miss out on some crucial opportunity. But I promise you that the whole world isn’t going to change just because you choose to stay in or do something else; don’t let the other parts of your life suffer just because you’re afraid to say “no” to everything else.

Taurus

The family you choose is just as important as the family you’re born with. People say blood is thicker than water, but the truth is that the most important connections in your life will be with the people who you invest your time and energy into (and the people who do the same for you). Just because they may not be a biological sister or cousin or parent doesn’t mean that they don’t hold the same emotional significance to you. So when you find a good family, do not let them slip away.

Gemini

The people who care for you will be willing to put in the effort to be there when you need them. There are people in the world who like the idea of your friendship more than they care to put in the work, and that says everything about them, not you. Just remember that your real people will respect your boundaries, be there through the tough times, and will be willing to hear you out when you need them to.

Cancer

Start saying “yes” more often. You love your comfort zone, and while you should absolutely expect people to respect your boundaries, you should also put it on yourself to try things you may not initially think you’d be interested in. Even if you don’t love what comes of it, you’ll have a story for another day and will learn something new about yourself—something you may never know otherwise. Besides, for all you know, just one “yes” could change your life for the better.

Leo

You are who you spend the most time around. If you’re always hanging around people who treat others badly (or, alternatively, who make you feel bad about yourself), even if you do not exhibit the behavior yourself, it means you still condone what they say and do. Do not let people with bad intentions infect your energy. Instead, spend time with people who bring good to this world and who make you feel stronger for it.

Virgo

No one will hate you for putting yourself first for once. A lot of times you’ll convince yourself it’s your job to do what you know what’s best for everyone else or you’ll be so afraid of making waves that you’ll do things you don’t really care to just to keep everyone else happy. But your loved ones won’t turn their backs on you just because you decide to follow your gut and do what you need to do for your own well-being. Stop worrying about the world will think and start focusing on what you need.

Libra

It’s okay to recognize that you can’t juggle everything. You have a tendency to take on a lot, then become hard on yourself when things start slipping through the cracks. Prioritize your time and figure out what you can delegate to others or cut out of your life completely—it doesn’t make you lazy or a failure, it just means you’re being smart about your time and energy.

Scorpio

Sometimes you think it’s easier to be alone than to find people who understand you for who you are (and who choose to accept you for it). But know this: Your people are out there, and you aren’t going to find them if you continue to shut people out on the outset. Let people see who you are—you never know who is going to love you for it.

Sagittarius

Start asking your loved ones all the questions you can come up with—their favorite color, the book they’d recommend, whether or not they believe in fate. You might be surprised at the unexpected layers you find with people who you swear you already knew like the back of your hand, and it just might create unexpected connections. People will surprise you if you let them.

Capricorn

It’s important to recognize when it’s time to let go. Change can be terrifying for you, which is why sometimes you drag out situations past their expiration date. Remember that just because something doesn’t last forever doesn’t mean that the time it did last wasn’t important, and that something’s brevity doesn’t mean it’s a failure or a waste. Honor the beauty of what was but don’t be afraid of what lies ahead.

Aquarius

The world won’t always be gentle to you, so it’s imperative that you choose to be gentle toward yourself. You can be your own biggest critic, but you’ll be amazed at how your entire viewpoint can change if you choose to lead your life with self-compassion and self-love. When you realize you’re being particularly hard on yourself, ask yourself if you’d treat a loved one the same way; when you feel judged by others, remember that there are others who love you all the same, and that you should love yourself that way, too.

Pisces

Instead of focusing on people’s intentions, pay close attention to their actions. Your empathy makes it easy for you to justify the things people do, but the truth is that someone can mean well most of the time and still consistently hurt you or those around you. If people want to do something, they will, otherwise their words are empty and their well wishes aren’t real enough to change anything.