Take a break. No, seriously, put aside everything that’s been stressing you out, even for just an hour. Responsibilities are important, but your mental health should always take precedence. Watch a movie that makes you happy, spend some time on a hobby you’ve been neglecting, have a glass of wine in the bath (or a beer in the shower, if that’s your vibe). Do something just for you.
It’s okay to get lost in nostalgia every now and then. Just because you’re dead set on moving forward doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to indulge in memories every now and then. It doesn’t mean you’re not healing, and it doesn’t mean you’re not letting go. Sometimes reminiscing is part of growing.
Spend time with the people who feel like home. You tend to like the excitement of change and new things, and while there’s something so lovely about chasing new horizons, don’t forget the people and places that have always been there for you. Even older connections need time and energy to be nourished.
Stop caring about what other people think. If you factor others’ opinions into everything you do, you’ll never fully have the freedom to be yourself—authentically, soulfully. The truth is, people think about your actions a lot less than you think they do, and if they choose to judge you, that’s their business, not yours—live your life as if they aren’t watching.
You have a lot of thoughts, a lot of opinions, and a lot of feelings—it’s part of what makes you so interesting. But sometimes you’re so sure that you’re right and justified that you grow deaf to other legitimate viewpoints. Just because someone doesn’t think the same way you do doesn’t mean they’re wrong. The world will never be so black and white, so learn to get comfortable in the gray.
Be the light in someone else’s darkness. You are so often people’s rock, and while it can be exhausting, know you are doing so much good just by letting people know that they aren’t alone. You can’t do everything, and you can’t be everything, but there is value in just being there. Know that you are making a difference.
Sometimes you see so many different sides of a situation that you have trouble fully committing to a viewpoint. You like to live in the gray, and that’s perfectly okay. But it’s also okay to admit that you don’t know everything and just make a choice anyway—no one expects you to have all the answers. Your views are allowed to evolve—so for now, just do the best you can with the information you have.
You more than anyone else understands the importance of feeling through your emotions. But I hope you also know you’re allowed to say “This isn’t worth my energy” and walk away from feelings that are doing nothing but draining you. There’s a difference between honoring your emotions and letting them control you.
When you notice something beautiful, share it with someone else. Send a picture of a stunning sunset to your Mom. Buy the beautiful bouquet and surprise your friend with it. Convince your significant other to watch the movie that moved you. You have an eye for poignancy—let it be a gift to the rest of the world.
When you feel pulled down by the darkness, make an effort to look for the light. Reach out to people who know how to put a smile on your face. Reread the book that made you feel hopeful. Listen to the song that feels like a hug from a best friend. When you’re going through a rough patch, it can feel draining to go out of your way for the good things, but it will be worth it.
Spring cleaning can include more than just physical objects—it can be about attitudes and ideas, too. What is no longer serving you? Sometimes we hold grudges out of habit; sometimes we hold onto a belief system because it’s the only one we’ve ever known; sometimes we fall into a routine and never ask ourselves why. You more than anyone else know the importance of evolving—don’t be afraid to shed your old skin and transform.
Idealism is okay until you begin to use it to torture yourself. Reality rarely lives up to expectation—but that’s okay. Life isn’t meant to be a fantasy. Instead of wishing things could be how you wish they were, look for the unexpected beauty in how things actually are. The world is an imperfect place, which makes the good so much more meaningful.