What It Feels Like To Love Someone Who Has Fallen Out Of Love With You
It’s never easy when the person you are madly in love with falls out of love with you. However, you are going to make it through this tough time. Here are some other people who have dealt with the same situation explaining how it felt for them and how they managed to cope:
“At a point I couldn’t see a life going forward without them. Then I realized, hey I’ve gone a month, then two months, then six months, then a year without talking to them. It sucked a whole lot. They immediately started dating a new partner almost immediately but you do get over it. It’s not easy, and it’s honestly wild how much of a hold one person can have over you, but it does get better. I do think a problem that a lot of people do fall into though is the immediate rebound hookups/relationships. You get the immediate sense of ‘haha I don’t need them,’ but a lot of people do get this sense of guilt after. So, just take it at your own pace and you’ll be okay. I’ve always taken a long time after breakups to put myself out there again, we all move at our own pace. None are wrong, just don’t force yourself.” — enerichenle
“Ask yourself, are you sure you’re deeply in love with them still? Or the idea of them? We often put people, especially former flames, on a pedestal that isn’t accurate to who they really were. You have to let them go since they’ve let you go. Focus on what you can control. Work on yourself and pursue things that bring you happiness.” — suspicious_lobster6
“It’s a strange feeling. When I take a shower, I relive conversations we’ve had. Laying in bed, I hug a pillow thinking of them, thinking of the mistakes we made together and grew from. We aren’t on bad terms, we semi regularly talk. However it’s really hard not to drift into imagining about what life would be like with them still around. There’s a constant tightness in my chest whenever I think about it, but not something uncomfortable.” — Cr0551n54n1ty
“I have no idea the person they are now or even what they’re up to now, but I still am in love with the version of them I knew. Maybe they still love me in the way that they used to know me, but I’ll never know. Acceptance is the closest thing you’ll ever get to relief.” — Born-Airport-3151
“For me I find it similar to grief. After some years the same emotion is still there, even if the intensity has diminished due to adapting to our as part of daily life.” — jaxonfairfield
“Don’t let it slow you down. I carried a flame for my ex for YEARS after we split up, but the way I handled it is by realizing that while we might not be able to control our feelings, we can control our behavior. So I would simply not contact my ex and I would go out, meet other people, chat with them, dance with them, date them, and start relationships with them. If I still for some reason had feelings for my ex then it just wasn’t anybody else’s problem; it wasn’t the problem of the new person I was with and was making happy, and it sure wasn’t my ex’s problem either.” — MagicSPA
“When you move on with your life and take responsibility for yourself, the pain vanishes. Because trauma is like that, it keeps coming back. The answer is to complete your assignments and improve your life daily.” — Anducewq
“In all honesty, you probably don’t miss your ex; rather, you probably miss the way they made you feel. Like you probably don’t miss them as a person; rather, you probably miss how you felt when you were dating them.” — Coleaked1950
“It sucks. But I just try to tell myself I deserve better. Hopefully one day I’ll find my better.” — itsagoddessj
“This… this hurts But once someone else who really loves you for who you are, arrives in your life, it gets easier to forget the ex, because the ‘deeply in love’ part soon gets exposed for what it actually is, and thats just an attachment to a particular image of that person.” — Baldheadedeagle