You Deserve More Than An Inconsistent Man

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but I know it’s someone:

You deserve more than an inconsistent man. Because an inconsistent man is unpredictable. You can never know what version of him you’re going get at a given moment. One second, he’ll be all about you, and the next he’ll almost treat you like a stranger despite the fact you slept over the previous night. But then, a few days later, he’s back to his charming, attentive self.

Dating an inconsistent man will be exhausting and hurtful. And the worst part is that you will always stay longer than you should because you keep getting glimpses of the real thing, of his potential. You think that maybe he just needs a little more time in order to open up fully and commit. You believe that if you wait and stay patient with him, he will eventually realize the beautiful thing the two of you have. And it will be then that he can finally step into the man you know deep down he could be.

Here’s the thing, though: You’ll be waiting forever. Because inconsistency is not a sign of potential. Mixed signals are not love letters waiting to be decoded. Hot and cold behavior isn’t romantic.

An inconsistent man will never be who you need him to be.

You cannot depend on him to show up when it matters most. You cannot predict whether he’s going to treat you right on a given moment. You cannot count on him for much of anything. He will always leave you wanting more than he has to give and you will constantly be needing to pick up his slack. The relationship will last, but only as long as you’re willing to carry it all on your back.

You deserve better than sporadic interest, empty promises, and bullshit excuses. You deserve effort. You deserve authenticity. You deserve care. You deserve someone who actually gives a shit about you. You deserve someone all in, not a man who had one foot out the door the second he walked into your life.

You deserve more than an inconsistent man. Let him go.