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3 Zodiacs Who Need To Stop Seeking Love Outside Of Themselves

CANCER

Your heart’s deepest desire is to find a special person to build a strong foundation and share a life with. Family, home, love, comfort, stability—these are the things that drive you. So profound is your yearning for a secure emotional connection that sometimes you fail to nurture the connection that matters the most—the one you have with yourself. All the nurturing, love, and devotion you pour into relationships, you should be pouring into yourself. This isn’t to say that you should stop loving as earnestly as you do, but that you should also show yourself that kind of love. You shouldn’t be so emotionally dependent on another. Having a beautiful relationship that brings joy and meaning into your life shouldn’t be the only contributing factor towards your fulfillment. To have the life you envision with “the one,” you must first feel whole and happy on your own. Fostering a deep connection with yourself will only make that love you hope to find a greater, unbreakable one.

LEO

You’re one of the most confident signs of the zodiac. Yet, with all your self-esteem and self-assuredness, you can be prone to deep insecurity when you’re not given the recognition you believe you deserve. You thrive on admiration, and you constantly seek it from your partner and others who surround you, even strangers. And because you’re associated with the Fifth House of the zodiac, which is all about romance and pleasure, you have an inflated sense of expectations in love. This positions you into always being in search of the love of a lifetime—one with sparks, the fairy tale, and all the works. This also means that once you’ve found the one who makes your heart sing, you expect to be their focus and priority. If they don’t provide you with constant adoration and affirmation, you feel unseen, and even unloved. This is because you confuse love for attention (and often, vice versa). Love is more than just praise, Leo. All the love you desire is found inside of you, you just have to learn how to give yourself the reassurance you try to find from other people. Validation shouldn’t come from external sources, not even from the ones we love the most. When you learn how to give it to yourself, your relationships will flourish. 

LIBRA

Because you’re governed by Venus, the planet of beauty and love, you’re on the chase for a grand romance. Your association to the Seventh House of marriage and partnership also contributes to how you prioritize romantic relationships, and how you define yourself inside those parameters. You’re so invested in being part of an “us” that you neglect your sense of “me.” Seeking love outside yourself has caused you deep heartache in the past. It has resulted in codependent bonds. There have been times that you have sacrificed your values, wants, needs, and even parts of what makes you you. You’ve romanticized toxic lovers, and even tried to rationalize away their awful behavior. Trying to keep a partner happy (and at your side) has outweighed your inner peace. The harmony you so deeply crave isn’t going to be found in another person. That love you seek is already found within you, Libra. Finding “the one” shouldn’t make you feel complete, because you should already feel fulfilled all on your own. This special person will only add to the beauty in your life. You’ll experience so much more balance once you learn to stop self-identifying in relationships.