Boundaries are an important part of any relationship. You need to set them in order to be treated the way you deserve — and to chase away the people who aren’t willing to rise to your standards. Here are some zodiacs who need to develop stronger boundaries to increase their chances of finding their life partner:
You’re a people-pleaser, so you’re usually more concerned with what you can do for others than what they can do for you. However, you don’t want to be so focused on their needs that you forget to take your own needs into consideration. If you don’t develop stronger boundaries, you could end up wasting way too long on the wrong person. You could keep giving them second (and third and fourth) chances that they don’t deserve. You need to develop stronger boundaries so that you can weed out the people who aren’t a good match for you, who aren’t willing to give you what you deserve.
Even though you want to give others the benefit of the doubt and avoid making premature judgements, you need to be careful that this mindset doesn’t backfire on you. Letting someone off the hook once is reasonable. Twice is questionable. Even though you want to give them the chance at love they deserve, what about the chance at love you deserve? If you keep letting a certain person cross boundaries, you’re preventing yourself from going out there and finding someone who is a better fit for you, someone who will treat you the way you deserve and never let your love feel one-sided.
You never want to make your partner uncomfortable, so sometimes you pretend you’re fine or avoid bringing up problems with the relationship to avoid drama. But this isn’t saving the relationship. It could be destroying it. Your partner needs to know what you want from them in order to give it to you. You could be with the right person, but by refusing to open up to them and not being firm about what you want, they’re unable to give it to you. Or you could be with the wrong person, and by staying silent and letting them get away with anything, you’re doing yourself a disservice. Remember, you deserve a relationship where your boundaries are respected. If you don’t state those boundaries early, you could end up with the wrong person for way too long.
You need to remember that you’re not mean or unreasonable for setting boundaries in your relationships. In fact, this is a way to love yourself and show respect to yourself. More than that, it’s a way to make sure you and your partner are on the same page about your relationship expectations. If the person you’re with is right for you, they will appreciate you being upfront with them and will respect your boundaries. And if they’re wrong for you and end up pushing your boundaries or complaining about them, you will know it’s time to move onto someone new who won’t try to cross established lines. Someone who will give you what you need, physically and emotionally.