4 Birth Months Who Spin Red Flags Into Roses
Most of us, when we see red flags in a partner, tend to run – but whether we run toward or away from the relationship depends on a number of factors, including our birth months.
Certain birth months spot red flags and, instead of recognizing them for the warning signs they are, picture them as a romantic bouquet of red roses instead. Here are the birth months who ignore red flags, and how the month we arrive in explains their tendency to overlook negative qualities in a lover.
July
Those with July birthdays are one of the sweetest, kindest birth months – which is exactly why they tend to attract some of the most manipulative and toxic lovers. July natives are generous and compassionate, which some people take for weakness. They are also very private and mysterious, which can be confused with submission or even stupidity. It’s easy to see why those born in July may attract the wrong partners, by no fault of their own. But they do tend to overlook glaring red flags, allowing unhealthy relationships to go on for much longer than they should. This is because those born in July are so romantic, and they love being in love. They seek comfort and stability in relationships, so they would rather put up with a nightmare partner than go through the nightmare (in their minds) of being single again and finding someone new. This birth month puts their partner’s obvious flaws out of mind, choosing to ignore the red flags so they can stay in the relationship for as long as possible. July-born individuals must learn that being single or finding someone new isn’t as terrible as they imagine, and it’s worlds better than being stuck in a stagnant or toxic romance.
September
September natives notice everything and they are total perfectionists, so it’s hard to imagine them missing or ignoring red flags. The truth is, they don’t – they are extremely aware of their lover’s flaws, it’s just that they think they can “fix” them. And sometimes these flaws aren’t even actual flaws, just characteristics that make them incompatible as a couple. There’s nothing those born in September love more than a project, so they are happy to take on a partner as a “fixer-upper.” They really believe they can change their partner’s shortcomings or whatever they dislike about them. But this almost always backfires – the partner feels constantly scrutinized and criticized, and the relationship stops feeling like an equal partnership and more of a parent-child dynamic. September-born individuals must learn to either trust their gut and let unsatisfactory partners go early on in the relationship, or find someone whose “flaws” they can tolerate without trying to change them.
October
Those born in October are so charming and outgoing that they always have a line of potential partners eager to take them on a date. Although this birth month avoids commitment when single, they also stay in relationships for a long time once they’ve chosen a partner. People born in October are optimists and can see the good in everyone, so they tend to have rose-colored glasses when it comes to their partners. They don’t see the flaws in their lovers and they won’t listen when others point them out. As much as they enjoy a little juicy gossip, they don’t like it when anyone speaks poorly of their partner. Although they are people-pleasers who avoid confrontation, they will stand up for their loved ones, and then become even more stubbornly enmeshed in the relationship. Those with October birthdays need to take the rose-colored lenses off and face reality, no matter how strong their feelings are. When all the signs (and others in their lives) say their partner is wrong for them, they must heed those warnings.
March
Those born in March miss red flags because they create their own version of reality when they’re in love. They are hopeless romantics who yearn for a fairytale romance, and they won’t settle for anything less. Which is why it’s so surprising to see those born in March often in toxic, messy relationships – they project their idealized version of a partner onto the person they’re dating, then get upset when that person doesn’t live up to their expectations. March natives let a lot of red flags go because their imaginations see red roses instead. But when something finally happens to shatter March natives’ illusions, they will finally leave the relationship. They need to slow down and get to know their partners well before committing – instead of dating someone for their potential or who they want them to be, they must find out who they truly are.