Dating Advice For Each Zodiac (Tarot Reading)

Aries

Your Card: Eight of Pentacles

The thing is Aries, dating takes effort. Like most other things in life, it is a skill that requires time to get good at. Commitment involves a level of personal adjustment and growth to make it work. You are a dedicated sign committed to improvement, but you don’t see dating in the same light for whatever reason. But that’s just the reality of dating, it requires a cultivation of skills and the openness to improve upon certain weaknesses. Issues amongst couples are bound to come up and so through personal growth, you can both navigate those problems and move past them as a team. So my best advice to you, Aries, is to remember that it takes practice to get the hang of most things in life, and dating is no different. You must learn how to communicate your emotions effectively as well as develop stronger empathy towards the people that you’re dating because even though you two might be interested in one another, that doesn’t change the fact that you are both still two different people with completely different backgrounds. 

Taurus

Your Card: King of Swords

Slow things down a bit more and don’t depend on pure emotions as a determining factor in your dating life. You tend to get caught up in the romantics so much so that at the worst of times you neglect whether or not this connection is truly practical. Yes, passion is important, but in dating, this isn’t the only factor that determines the longevity of a connection. Slow yourself down, and be smarter about things moving forward. Not everyone needs to know your whole sob story on the first date, and a lack of fireworks after one date does not mean it’s not meant to be. Things take time to develop. 

Gemini

Your Card: The Hierophant

You may not want to hear this, Gemini, but with the presence of The Hierophant tarot card, the best dating advice that I have for you is to perhaps embrace tradition as opposed to taboo. There is nothing wrong with a traditional route when it comes to love. Traditions usually exist for a pretty valid reason. They work. After generations of humans developing cultures, philosophies, and practices, traditions come about because they are generally what the collective feels works best. That’s not to say certain traditions shouldn’t be updated as we evolve, but The Hierophant is a reminder that some traditions are worth holding on to. So with that all said, embrace tradition Gemini. Don’t jump into sex right away, give yourself both some time to get to know one another without being physical so soon. Play things safe and allow things to develop from there. Once you establish a strong bond and connection, then at that point you can traverse outside the norm and delve into taboos but for right now, what some might consider “safe” and you may be genuinely delighted. 

Cancer

Your Card: Ten of Swords

Perhaps you’re healing from a breakup right now, Cancer. Or maybe you’re life has been incredibly stressful and therefore you’ve felt weighed down. Whatever the circumstances may be, the Ten of Swords suggests that your confidence just isn’t as high as it was before. You may not be feeling your best physically, emotionally, or mentally. You might be using dating as a distraction or as a source of external validation to make yourself feel better. But honestly, it’s a terrible idea to look for validation in others because it will never be enough to fill the emptiness you feel inside. Instead, focus on yourself and let yourself heal from whatever it is you’re suffering from before you get back out there. The reason why is you’re only going to attract who you are at this moment. So if you’re feeling insecure, you’re going to attract others who are insecure. If you’re facing financial issues or stressors, you’re probably gonna attract someone in a similar situation. Focus on yourself, your growth, and focus on finding that validation you seek from within. Become the best version of yourself and then you will be able to find someone who is also on that level. 

Leo

Your Card: Death

You might be feeling frustrated with the partners you attract, Leo. The thing is, if you’re constantly attracting what inevitably ends up being the same person over and over again (just slightly different) then you can’t continue blaming the dating pool. You must accept the harsh reality that the common denominator within all of this is you. So if you want to change the type of person that you are attracted to, that will require you to change the type of person that you fundamentally are. You must take an honest look at yourself and ask whether or not you are someone that you would want to date. Ask yourself what are the qualities that you want in your ideal partner and learn to exhibit those traits that you seek. Become the dream version of yourself so that you can attract your dream partner. But as indicated by the Death tarot card, this is going to take some real hard work that you must be fully committed to. The Death card represents ego death. Experiencing ego death is quite a painful yet necessary process. It requires letting go of aspects of our identity that we cling to even though they no longer service us. This is the kind of change you must embrace for your dating life to change for the better. 

Virgo

Your Card: The Fool

You take dating way too seriously, Virgo. The Fool tarot card suggests that you approach dating as if it’s work. You’re exhausted by the whole ordeal of it. And I get it, it is exhausting especially when you feel like you’re starting from square one and you have to go through the small talk phase and find a way to fabricate chemistry where there is none. Dating at times can feel disingenuous and like a hassle. But it doesn’t have to feel like work, Virgo. For you, it seems like dating has lost the level of excitement it once had. Find ways to make it fun and fresh and not like work. Stop expecting so much from the other person and learn how to just enjoy their company. You’re constantly overanalyzing every word they say and every action they make trying to find some sort of ulterior motive where there is none. You have a very bad habit of focusing on just the red flags instead of seeing the green flags. You tend to focus on the negative and not the positive and sometimes you even project problems where there aren’t any thus you cut someone off way too soon without giving them a real chance. Dating takes time and it’s impossible to get to know a person truly unless you learn to embrace the journey ahead and give you both the time to adjust to one another. 

Libra

Your Card: The High Priestess 

Libra, you may have a bad habit of ignoring the red flags. The High Priestess might suggest that you aren’t trusting your intuition and your better judgment enough. You willingly let things go and are too forgiving at times. You’re afraid to set boundaries and let the other person know when you’re not okay with what they’re doing because you feel like by setting boundaries they won’t like you. The best dating advice I have for you is to stop being such a people-pleaser. Understand that setting boundaries doesn’t make people like you less, if anything, setting firm boundaries has the opposite effect. We are more likely to have respect for people who know how to respectfully communicate firm boundaries. People who express disappointment for valid reasons are people we are more likely to think highly of. So with that said, always remember; your job is to set the standards and their job is to meet those expectations. 

Scorpio

Your Card: Knight of Wands

It seems like your issue when it comes to dating is that you subconsciously have commitment issues (even though you tell yourself that you genuinely want a relationship) which is why you find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people. You’re not emotionally available and you’re subconsciously seeking out others who you deep down inside know will never commit so that you don’t ever have to commit. Part of this is because you believe that love must be this overly dramatic movie-like love story for you to want to say yes to a relationship. You love the chase because it makes you feel like you’re winning something. It makes you feel like you’ve earned love. Perhaps deep down you don’t believe you deserve love, you feel like you must prove yourself to the other person and earn that love. Moving forward, don’t assume that true love is an uphill battle in the beginning. Healthy dating should be effortless, it shouldn’t be so dramatic and chaotic. 

Sagittarius

Your Card: The Star

I get it, dating requires vulnerability which is terrifying. You’re essentially giving people the opportunity to hurt you and that is a scary feeling. I’m sorry if your dating life has been filled with disappointments and betrayals thus far. I understand how exhausting it can be to have the same wounds reopened. But The Star tarot card is a positive sign, Sagittarius. Have hope and remain optimistic. Not everyone is the same and not everyone is going to hurt you or make you feel let down. Don’t think that everyone is manipulative or as vindictive as others you’ve dated in the past. Don’t project your past experiences on others. The more you project, the more your dating life will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you convince yourself that everyone will inevitably disappoint you, then everyone will disappoint you. Don’t assume people’s character when you have very little information to work with. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Everyone is a blank slate.

Capricorn

Your Card: Three of Wands

The Three of Wands suggest that you may have a bad tendency to run for the hills the second that any problems arrive in the early stages of dating, Capricorn. Instead of facing issues head-on, you kid yourself into thinking that there is no way to work through them and that breaking up is the only option. You view almost any issue as a dealbreaker. Honestly, a lot of these “problems” that you are perceiving aren’t as bad as you think. Understand that no relationship is going to be perfect and that’s okay, it doesn’t mean that you aren’t compatible with that person. And it certainly doesn’t mean that you’re settling, it just means that you both need to work these issues out. Everyone you date is going to have their flaws but that doesn’t always mean you’re settling for less. The Three of Wands might also suggest a lack of patience on your end. You typically follow a structured approach in life. Meaning if things aren’t happening on your time, then that signifies issues. You can’t rush love and not everyone exists on your timeline. Every relationship looks different and everyone has a different approach to dating. Have some patience and remind yourself that to move forward healthily, you have to be willing to work through problems instead of thinking it’s the end of everything. 

Aquarius

Your Card: Knight of Cups

The Knight of Cups might suggest that you’re way too much of a player, Aquarius. Maybe you know this about yourself or maybe this is news to you but the fact remains. While I think it’s good to keep your options open and not put all of your eggs in one basket, this can go too far because what you end up doing is you don’t give people enough time or energy to allow things to develop. You’re spreading yourself way too thin and because of that, you don’t know any of these people as well as you think that you do. I get it, you have a hard time settling down to begin with, but if it’s love that you’re looking for, maybe learn to narrow it down just a bit more or focus on dating one person at a time.

Pisces

Your Card: Nine of Wands

The Nine of Wands might suggest that you don’t take enough accountability in the problems that arise within you’re dating life. In other words, you’re constantly playing the victim without owning up to your own mistakes. Dating requires a willingness to improve yourself and being open to the critiques that others may have of you. You’re always so quick to put the blame a hundred percent on the other person when trying to figure out where things went wrong that you’re completely ignoring the fact that it takes two to tango. Most of the time, both people involved are contributing to the problem at hand. If you want a connection to grow and stand the test of time, this requires compromise from both ends, Pisces. You’re not always right and you’re not always the victim.