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How Each Zodiac Can Massively Improve Their Love Life This May

Aries

Be patient.

Aries, you have an unparalleled, amazing level of ambition and drive that lets you get stuff done. You don’t wait around for anything in life, and that includes romance. But relationships take time, starting from the moment you have your first date to when you’ve been with a partner for years. You may want to run headfirst into things, or feel like the relationship is progressing too slowly, but sometimes slow is good. It’s important to leave the fast lane every once in a while. When you take the time to let a relationship develop at its own pace, you’ll only enrich it. Patience is a virtue, and spending more time working on that trait will help you have the most fulfilling relationships possible. 

Taurus 

Accept change.

Taurus, your knack for creating routines and organization makes you a great catch. And while there’s certainly a place and time for that, relationships may not be the best place. Change is the only constant in life, and this can often buck against your natural inclination to have things set in a certain way. There’s no doubt that change can be scary, but it can also be beautiful. Don’t be afraid if you notice your partner acting differently, or if they want to explore new things in their relationship. We all have layers that we ourselves are still discovering, and embracing this is vital. Forgoing your expectations once in a while can be a great way to connect closer with your loved one or anyone you’re interested in getting to know further. 

Gemini 

Slow down.

Gemini, your energy is mesmerizing. Your ability to move from one topic to the next, working on multiple projects, and your sheer multitasking prowess attract many people. But sometimes, your nonstop speed can get in the way of truly living in the present with the person you care about. You may find yourself distracted on a first date or anytime you talk with a partner, and you might forget what even took place before you moved on to the next topic. Work on giving your partner your full attention and simply being in their presence. Living in the present will make the moments you have with your partner ethereally unforgettable. 

Cancer

Remember your needs.

You’re a great friend, Cancer, which means you’ll always be a great partner as well. Your empathy is treasured, and anyone would be lucky to have you in your life with how attentive you are to others’ needs. But you can’t forget your own needs along the way. Selflessness is an important and admirable trait to have, but that doesn’t mean you can’t care for yourself as well. Healthy relationships involve you being equal to your partner, which means you treat yourself as well as you treat them. When you take care of yourself, you’re in a better place to take care of others and show up as your best self to your partner.

Leo

Share the spotlight.

Leo, you know you’re a celebrity wherever you go. The sheer confidence you have in yourself is stunning and is bound to attract potential partners. While it’s important to shine yourself, remember that the spotlight doesn’t need to be on you 24/7. Your big personality dazzles your partner, but they want to dazzle you just as much. Let your partner sparkle in the spotlight and wow you as the wonderful person they are. You are full of passion and life, so don’t be afraid to give your partner your full attention and let them know how amazing they are to you. Actions and genuine compliments go a long way, and they’ll only take you further in your relationship.

Virgo

Embrace imperfection.

Virgo, you hold everyone in your life accountable—and that includes your partners. For you, pointing out flaws and fixing them is your way of showing love. As with all things in life, however, there needs to be a balancing act. Not everyone is meticulous like you are, and many people will take your criticisms and feedback to heart, regardless of how constructive you’re being. Try not to let the perfectionist side of you take over too much in relationships and during dates. Acknowledge that dates won’t always go perfectly, that the relationship will have bumps in the road even if they’re addressed, and know that all of this is okay. There is beauty in imperfection, in the mess that is life, and the more you embrace that, the richer your relationship will be. 

Libra

Trust your gut.

Libra, it’s great to weigh your choices in all aspects of life, including relationships. Patience is a virtue, and so is sound decision-making. But, as good as it is to be thoughtful, it can also be stifling if you spend too much time in your head. You tend to second guess yourself, but the truth is you know more than you think you do. Relationships are complex; you can’t worry about how many decisions you make in it are “right” or “wrong.” You have to make decisions with the best you have, and that includes your gut feeling. Lean into your intuition more. When you trust yourself, you’ll trust your partner, and you’ll find yourself becoming even closer to them than you were before when you take a leap of faith.

Scorpio

Reach out. 

Scorpio, you may not know it, but your mysterious and enigmatic personality is quite the catch. It’s smart to not open yourself up to everyone since you don’t know who you can trust. But at some point, you do have to take those walls down, especially if you truly want to experience a relationship to its fullest. Opening up to people is scary and does leave you vulnerable—but it also strengthens your relationship. Your partner wants to know who you are. They want to know what things interest you, what makes you passionate, what makes you you. By working on tearing down those walls slowly, you’re letting your partner know that you trust them and that you want them to see you as you truly are.

Sagittarius 

Practice tactfulness.

Sagittarius, you tell it like it is. No one will ever accuse you of being passive-aggressive or beating it around the bush, which is just as intimidating as it is enticing. However, there is a time and place for brutal honesty. You may be unintentionally scaring off potential partners, or even your current partner, with your blunt words and matter-of-fact way of carrying yourself. Honesty is important, but so is tact. Think twice before you voice your thoughts and opinions to your partner. Consider how important it is that you say what you really mean at any given moment, or if you can forgo voicing your thoughts at all. You don’t have to give up honesty to be compassionate—in fact, mature honesty shows that you love someone. 

Capricorn

Loosen up.

Capricorn, it wouldn’t be surprising if you introduced some family traditions into your love life. That’s something you’re undoubtedly good at, and it provides a sense of calm in the sea of chaos that is life. But your orientation toward order and “how things are done” can be inflexible and off-putting to your partner. It’s okay to change things up every now and then. Don’t be afraid to show your partner your goofy side! You don’t have to be straight-laced throughout the entirety of a relationship or the first time you even meet someone. Chaos is a part of life, and even a little chaos in small doses can liven up your life. Just try doing some new things once in a while with your partner. You might surprise yourself with how lovely going with the flow can be, providing excitement in a usually by-the-book way of living.

Aquarius 

Get out of your head—and into others’.

Aquarius, you love being in your head and creating your own worlds. There’s no doubt that you’re an artist, and you might be surprised how many people find that alluring. But it’s essential to get out of your head once in a while. There’s a whole world out there for you to explore, and it may seem scary at first. But it’s worth it. Getting to know someone else’s views on life and seeing the way they see the world is an eye-opening experience. Everyone wants to be understood and understanding how someone else’s mind works not only helps you grow as a person but strengthens your connection with your partner. 

Pisces 

Take things into perspective.

Pisces, you are a romantic by heart, and the people you let into your life can see that. You always see the best in people, something that this world could use more of. But, while it’s important to remain optimistic, it’s also important to keep things in perspective. No partner is going to be perfect, and ignoring their flaws won’t help in the long run. Try to lower the rose-colored glasses you wear and see your partner for who they truly are. You may find it difficult to reconcile with some of their flaws, or even feel bad that you noticed them and that they bothered you, but that’s a part of life. Having a holistic view of your partner will only enhance the relationship, making its bond long-lasting.