Don’t trick yourself into believing you’re unlovable because someone ended a relationship with you. You could dwell on the fact that they walked away, that they decided you weren’t what they needed — but that’s not the whole story. Think of all the good times you shared. Think of how long the relationship lasted. If you were unlovable, then you wouldn’t have been in a relationship in the first place. If you were unlovable, then this person wouldn’t have been with you for so long. If you were unlovable, then you wouldn’t have friends to support you through the breakup.
People have fallen in love with you before and others will fall in love with you in the future. You have plenty to offer. Instead of focusing on all the things you’ve done wrong, consider what went right. List down your good traits. The fact that you’re selfless and kind, that you’re strong and intelligent, that you put one hundred percent of your effort into everything you do. There are beautiful pieces of you that the right person will appreciate.
Your breakup doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. It means that one person in a world filled with billions of people, decided you weren’t the right one for them. There are so many more options out there. There are so many other hearts that you haven’t even had the chance to meet. This one person isn’t the be-all, end-all. Their opinion isn’t the only one that matters. Not everyone is going to agree with them. Plenty of people are going to look at them and wonder how they could let someone like you go.
Your breakup doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. It simply means you were loving the wrong person. It means you were looking for affection in the wrong place. Your love is valuable, and the right person will see that. The right person will give as much as they receive. They will make sure you know, each and every day, exactly how lovable you are. But until then, you shouldn’t doubt yourself. You shouldn’t assume your meanest thoughts are the truth while ignoring your gentle thoughts.
Your breakup doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. You might have had these exact same thoughts in the past, before you met your ex, and then you found each other. You’re going to find someone else again. You’re going to prove yourself wrong. Remember, the way you feel about yourself when you’re at your lowest isn’t accurate. You aren’t giving yourself enough credit. You aren’t considering what a wonderful partner you can be or how lucky any single person in this world would be to have you.
Your breakup doesn’t mean you’re unlovable – but if there are things about yourself you would like to change, toxic aspects that your last relationship brought out in you, work toward bettering yourself. Put effort into self-growth and self-discovery. You are lovable exactly the way you are, but don’t settle when you could reach for the stars. Push yourself. Have high expectations for yourself – and for the people you choose to date.