You shouldn’t convince yourself that this is as good as you’re ever going to get. You shouldn’t feel guilty about complaining because you’re lucky that you even have a partner. You shouldn’t disregard your own feelings and make excuses to justify the poor way this person is treating you.
You deserve more than half their heart, half their time, half their attention. Don’t let them get away with ignoring you and disrespecting you. Don’t take it upon yourself to do all of the work because a relationship is meant to be two people trying. Two people caring. Two people working toward a happy, stable existence. If you’re the only person who is putting in effort, who actually cares about whether the relationship survives or fails, then you aren’t getting anywhere close to what you deserve. And you are probably exhausting yourself in the process.
Stop undervaluing yourself. Stop acting like you deserve to be treated this way. Stop feeling guilty about expecting the bare minimum because you don’t want to sound greedy. It’s not greedy to expect your partner to act present and romantic and kind. That’s what you deserve. Anything less is underselling yourself. It’s settling because you aren’t sure whether you deserve more.
You need to accept the fact that you matter. You deserve more than what you’ve been expecting. Even though you have baggage and insecurities, that doesn’t mean you’ve earned a lifetime of pain. That doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough for the type of love you’ve seen in movies. No matter what you’ve been through in the past, you still deserve to be adored. You deserve to feel seen and heard. You shouldn’t be wasting your time with a partner who undervalues you. And you shouldn’t undervalue yourself. You need to work toward self-love because maybe then you’ll see that this person isn’t what you deserve. You are worth so much more.
Stop punishing yourself by staying with someone who doesn’t treat you well. Stop assuming that this is what you deserve because you aren’t good enough for someone sweeter. You shouldn’t be tossing and turning each night, wondering whether this person is going to leave you soon. Wondering whether they’re ever going to smarten up and start treating you better. Wondering whether they’re ever going to give you as much as they’ve already taken. Your love shouldn’t make you feel horrible about yourself. They shouldn’t make you question your value. They should be making you feel cherished and admired, not cast aside and forgotten.
Stop undervaluing yourself because you deserve more than half their heart. You deserve a relationship that fulfills you. You deserve a partner who appreciates you. Stop settling for less because you are scared to ask for more, because you’re scared you aren’t good enough, because you’re scared you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. There are good people out there who will treat you right, so if your partner makes you feel like you need to fight for their attention, like you need to do all the heavy lifting, then you need to say goodbye. Because half of their heart isn’t good enough.