The Toxic Love Pattern You Need To Break, Based On Your Zodiac + Tarot

ARIES

Your Card: The Moon, reversed

Aries, you need to stop getting emotionally attached to people who aren’t sure about what they want, or how they feel about you. You deserve someone uncomplicated who is clear about their intentions and who doesn’t leave you guessing. Sure, excitement and mystery can be thrilling at the beginning, but those things can quickly turn into paranoia, confusion, and insecurities. Instead of chasing after the thrill, you should look for someone who makes you feel grounded and provides you with stability. 

TAURUS

Your Card: Temperance, reversed

There’s nothing more that you desire than that one person who will be your partner in everything and with whom you can create the life you’ve always envisioned. You’re devoted and dedicated when it comes to your relationships. You’ll do anything to make it work. Your love is unconditional, but it shouldn’t have to be. The toxic love pattern you need to break is going to the extremes for love. True love doesn’t drain you, and you never have to work so hard to keep it. Make sure your efforts are reciprocated. 

GEMINI

Your Card: Eight of Wands

You move too fast when it comes to romance, Gemini. You have a habit of getting excited and letting yourself run wild with your feelings. Sometimes this causes you to impulsively become entangled without giving matters proper thought and consideration. You often end up changing your mind about a person once the newness has worn off. Take things slow. Learn how to build a strong foundation first. Figure out if there’s true compatibility—how you communicate with each other, what you want out of life, whether your values and desires align. Get to know a person and build a friendship first before rushing into a relationship. 

CANCER

Your Card: The Lovers, reversed

You’re so eager to build a home with someone that you have a tendency of overlooking certain red flags. You often end up in relationships where something crucial is missing—compatibility, chemistry, trust, open communication, passion, connection. It’s for this reason precisely that in the past, you’ve had cold and detached partners who don’t meet your emotional needs. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is as enamored with you as you are with them—someone who will go the same lengths to make you happy. A relationship doesn’t mean anything if it isn’t one that’s fulfilling, stable, and makes you feel safe. 

LEO

Your Card: Death

Your toxic love pattern is resisting change. This can mean clinging on to old toxic patterns and emotional dynamics that keep you from moving forward in relationships or from finding true love. It can also signify that you’re carrying baggage or a past wound that you need to process and heal from. There’s something within yourself that needs to die, but you’re refusing to let go, robbing yourself of the opportunity to build a strong, beautiful, fulfilling relationship. What’s holding you back, Leo? What unhealthy habits do you need to break? What heartbreak are you still carrying around? 

VIRGO

Your Card: Three of Swords

There’s a past pain in your life that keeps you from opening up. You don’t allow yourself to be vulnerable because you’re afraid of being hurt again. There’s a heartache, betrayal, loss, deception, or breakup that you never let yourself grieve properly. You wanted to act as if it never happened, so you shoved it down so deep that it became a part of you. This is the toxic love pattern you need to break—letting your traumas control your story. Take back your power, Virgo. Write the love story you desire and deserve. You’re not going to let the right person in until you stop being bound to that pain. 

LIBRA

Your Card: The Sun, reversed

Libra, your toxic love pattern is going for people who take you and your relationship for granted. These partners make you feel lonely and left out in the cold. You lose yourself, become agreeable, and even go against your values to keep them happy. They fail to meet your emotional needs and give you nothing in return. You rationalize away their mistreatment of you because you want nothing more than a harmonious, balanced relationship. The type of lover you keep getting involved with is never going to give you that kind of love. Run away at the sight of the first red flag, Libra. Reframe your past pain as a lesson. What kind of partner do you truly want? 

SCORPIO

Your Card: Three of Cups, reversed

Scorpio, you stay in relationships well past their expiration date, even when it feels like there’s something missing. The stability and joy are often short-lived, and more time is spent trying to make it work than it is actually enjoying the relationship. You have a need for steadiness and emotional security, so you hang on, and ignore the fact that said relationship is never going to provide you with those things. You invest so much of yourself into your relationships that it’s hard to accept when it’s time to walk away. Stop trying to forcefully fit pieces that just don’t go together. You deserve passion, devotion, and loyalty. You deserve to be someone’s everything. 

SAGITTARIUS

Your Card: Eight of Pentacles

You let the other person put in all the effort, while you constantly neglect the relationship. This is largely due to the fact that you love your freedom, and you feel as if any relationship could get in the way of that. While the other person is determined to show you dedication and prove their love, you often wonder if there’s anything “better” out there. You panic once the newness has worn off, constantly in the chase of the next thrill. If you’re not careful, you’re going to lose someone special one day, and come to regret taking them for granted. Love is about more than just excitement and mystery. Devoting yourself to someone doesn’t have to mean losing your independence and all the things you value. It’s possible to find a partner who will encourage you to explore, one you’ll want to come along for the ride. 

CAPRICORN 

Your Card: Nine of Swords

You let your fear and anxiety get in the way when it comes to love. Often, you overthink and overanalyze things to the point that you persuade yourself out of a truly beautiful love with great potential. Part of this is because you allow yourself to dwell on the past and project the past mistakes and betrayals of old partners onto new ones. You let it make you mistrustful, insecure, and paranoid. Until you work through your past pain, you’ll never allow yourself to truly explore love with anyone else. 

AQUARIUS

Your Card: Ten of Wands, reversed

The toxic love pattern you need to break is your failure to share your burdens with your partner. You don’t allow yourself to get the emotional support you need from your partner. It’s because you find it difficult to be vulnerable, but also because deep down you’re afraid of what it might mean to lean on someone like that. You’re scared of becoming “emotionally dependent” on someone. Letting your partner in and allowing them to be there for you isn’t codependency. It’s what love is all about. If you keep refusing to let them do their job as a partner, it’s going to deteriorate your relationship. 

PISCES

Your Card: Two of Cups, reversed

You need to stop betting it all on people who are hesitant about you. You’re always willing to do whatever it takes, making sacrifices in order to keep the other person happy, when they can’t even give you the emotional security required to know where you stand. There tends to be an unbalanced power dynamic in your relationships—one in which you’re the giver, and the other person just takes and takes and takes. They take your devotion, affection, and efforts for granted, knowing that you’ll be there no matter what at the end of the day. That’s not the kind of love you want. You dream of a purer, deeper, and truer love. It could be yours if you stopped wasting your time on people who will never appreciate you.