Your card: Nine of Wands
You’ve been through a lot when it comes to love, Aries; you know what it feels like to be completely heartbroken or, at the very least, disappointed with your relationships. It’s not easy to be someone who loves so powerfully, so impulsively, so uncontrollably; when things go wrong, it’s sometimes feels like it’s the end of the world. But the love lesson you need to learn now has less to do with your actual relationships and more to do with yourself: You are resilient. You have the power to pick yourself up off the floor when you’ve been hurt. You have the power to set boundaries in your relationships—in fact, you 100% should. And when someone is draining your energy, you have the power to decide it’s a relationship that is no longer good for you. In fact, it’s your job to take care of yourself in your relationships. While love sometimes feels like something you can’t control, you really do have the power here—just look into your soul and find it.
Your card: Seven of Pentacles
There are few harder workers than you, Taurus—unless, of course, the task at hand is something you can’t be bothered with. But one of your biggest lessons in life will also be one of your biggest love lessons in 2021, and it’s this: You need to figure out what deserves your time and energy and what doesn’t. Perhaps you’ve been putting so much love and effort into an unequal partnership; perhaps you’re wasting your time chasing after someone who just doesn’t deserve you. Or maybe the problem is that you aren’t actually putting enough into your relationship at all and it leaves your partner feeling neglected and unloved. These are two extremes, but they both boil down to the same outcome: You’re simply putting the wrong amount of energy into your relationships. Coming to this realization can be life-changing—it can be the push you need to move on from a relationship that makes you unhappy or the reminder not to take the ones you love for granted. Either way, it will set you free.
Your card: The Devil
The Devil card is always a scary one to pull, but in this context, it simply means that your relationship to, well, relationships might not be the healthiest. There’s a possibility that you’re too codependent or even addicted to your partner; on the flip side, you might be so unattached that you prefer hookups and flirtationships over the real deal (or, worse case scenario, find yourself tempted to cheat on your partner). The former might lead you to get trapped in a toxic relationship while the latter may convince you to let go of a good thing because you’re so opposed to genuine connection that you’d rather not give it a chance at all. Maybe something will happen at the end of 2021 to make this more obvious to you than ever before, or maybe it’s a realization that’s been slowly dawning on you for some time. The only way to fix it, of course, it to really step back and examine your relationships and the role you play within them. Is there a reason you rely too much (or too little) on your partner? Are there unresolved emotional issues you’re still grappling with? This may be a good time to visit your therapist, who can help you look at your love life objectively and pinpoint what’s going wrong.
Your card: The Fool, reversed
Your sensitivity is one of the greatest things about you, Cancer, but it also has the potential to become your greatest roadblock. Sometimes you’re so afraid of getting hurt that you’ll avoid love and relationships altogether. And sometimes that’s okay. You need time alone to really understand yourself and find what makes you as an individual happy. But there’s a difference between choosing to be alone for your own self-discovery and choosing to be alone because you’re scared, and it boils down to this: the former helps you grow, but the latter will only ever keep you stuck in place, never truly happy with the outcome. Don’t let your fear of getting hurt stop you from even attempting to find true happiness. Because at the end of the day, the only thing really stopping you is you.
Your card: The Queen of Wands
You are often called the most confident sign, Leo, but let’s be real—very rarely is anyone, even you, confident all the time. Sometimes it’s easier to fake bravado than to admit you feel vulnerable. Perhaps the key is to be brave in your vulnerability; don’t pretend it’s not there, but embrace it. Forget the facade and saving face and tell people how you really feel. There are no winners or losers in a relationship, just two people who can either choose to give it their all or not. And choosing to be inauthentic out of the fear of being hurt or judged or rejected will only hurt you more in the end. Be brave enough to love with your whole heart, Leo, because you have a big one.
Your card: Ace of Pentacles
The Ace of Pentacles is all about planting the seeds of a new opportunity. And perhaps that is the lesson you really need to learn right now, Virgo: The opportunity for love is there, you just need to plant the seed. You need to nourish it. You need to help it grow. It’s not just going to appear out of thin air. You can’t just will it into existence (though you can’t go wrong with a little manifestation). You need to put in the work, take the chance, and actively put yourself out there, away from your comfort zone, if you’re truly hoping to find love. And once you find it (or if you already have), you have to take care of it—believe it or not, relationships can’t just maintain themselves naturally. While it might seem natural to become complacent in your love life, all you’re doing is opening the door and inviting love to leave. And if you aren’t careful, someday it will.
Your card: Ace of Swords
You’re well-known for your indecisiveness, Libra. You can easily see the pros and cons of every situation, which can make it difficult to settle on a decision and fully commit. Unsurprisingly, this can take quite a toll on your love life. Maybe you struggle to decide who you’re actually interested in dating, or maybe you have difficulty leveling up once you’re already in a stable relationship. It can be terrifying to think you might make the wrong decision, especially in something as important and vulnerable as love. But sitting on a decision won’t necessarily make it easier (it might just take away your options) and sometimes it takes dating the wrong people and making the wrong moves to realize what you really want. So instead of going back and forth about what you want, choose to commit wholeheartedly and see your decision through—maybe it’ll end up being the wrong choice for you, but you know what? You’ll be okay.
Your card: Six of Wands, reversed
You’re not necessarily one to stick with the status quo, Scorpio. And why should you be? Still, that doesn’t mean you’re completely immune to the criticism and judgment people point your way. Your lesson for 2021 will be coming to terms with the fact that maybe love and relationships look different to you than they do to other people—and that’s perfectly okay. Will everyone understand? Probably not, but you don’t need them to. It’s this letting go that might be difficult for you—letting go of what others think, letting go of the expectations others had for you, letting go of the idea that there is no singular way to love and be loved. You get to decide what a happy, successful relationship looks like for you. And when you realize that, the rest comes easily.
Your card: Two of Cups
You can be incredibly independent, Sagittarius—sometimes at your own expense. You’ve never cared to completely lose yourself in love. And that’s great! That’s healthy. But I think it’s also important to remember that every relationship is a partnership comprising two people. There is not just one cup to fill, but two, and if you take your share without paying close attention, you might leave your partner’s cup completely empty. Love is a give and take, a balance. And while it’s fine to live your life for yourself, if you’re going to choose to be in a relationship, you need to keep in mind that your decisions affect them, too. Maybe that means you have to compromise every now and then, but it won’t be as big of a deal when you realize how beautiful life can be when both you and your partner are able to share in your love and ensure that both cups are full.
Your card: Nine of Cups, reversed
You are one of the most practical signs in the zodiac, Capricorn—maybe a bit too practical at times. You may have a tendency to treat love the same way, choosing your partners based on a checklist of traits you’ve deemed superior and expecting your relationships to follow a specific roadmap. But what happens when you have everything you thought you wanted but you’re still not happy? Love isn’t an equation; you can’t put in a specific input and expect a specific output. A relationship that everyone else approves of might make you miserable; the kind of partner you’ve always been told to look for might leave you feeling unfulfilled and disappointed. When it comes to love, you need to stop doing what you think you should do and instead learn to follow your heart—it might not lead you to where you always thought you’d go, but you will find your way to happiness.
Your card: The Hermit
The world would have you to believe that if you don’t have a relationship, you can’t be happy—at least, not really. But it’s possible that this sentiment never quite felt right to you, Aquarius—after all, you tend to be more detached than other signs, even when it comes to personal relationships. On the flip side, maybe you wanted it to be true so you searched everywhere for a love that would “complete” you, only to come up empty every time. It’s possible you might even start to wonder if something is wrong with you. But The Hermit really invites you to really focus on who you are outside of a partnership and working to fulfill that version of yourself first. Maybe you’ll realize it’s time to take a break from dating and really focus on yourself; maybe you’ll realize that, while you have no plans for breaking off your relationship, you still need to put more energy into fulfilling yourself, because being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re any less of an individual. This is the time to journey into your own soul and find what’s there. It’s only when you feel right within yourself that you can find a love that fits you perfectly.
Your card: Eight of Swords
It’s highly possible that your love life doesn’t look the way you think it should right now—though to be fair, you’re a bit of a dreamer, Pisces, and it might be difficult for reality to meet your expectations. Either way, something is wrong, but you don’t feel you have the ability to fix it. It might be that you’re stuck in a relationship pattern you can’t seem to break or you’re confused about what you really want; worst case scenario, you might even be stuck in a toxic relationship. It could even be that you’re tired of being perpetually single, but no one seems to meet your standards. Know what all of these things have in common? You have the power to change them. It won’t always feel like it—in fact, most of the time it may feel like you have no options at all—but at the end of the day, you have all the answers you need. Listen to your intuition and trust your gut instinct. If something feels seriously wrong, do everything you can to remove yourself from the situation. And if someone repeatedly crosses your boundaries, maybe it’s time to cut them out—because guess what? You can do that! You have the power to walk away, to give a chance to someone you might usually overlook, to choose to put yourself first. You have the power to change your reality—always remember that.