Groundhogging Is Officially The Worst 2022 Dating Trend
Groundhogging is when you keep falling for the same type of person over and over again – and you keep having the same type of relationship problems again and again. Basically, no matter how hard you try to find someone who fits you better, history keeps repeating itself. You keep ending up in the exact same situations. It’s hard to break this cycle because you always have hope that this new person is going to be different, they’re going to be better, they’re going to keep the promises that the last person broke – but then you realize that this person was like all the rest.
If you don’t want to feel like every day is Groundhog’s Day, then you’re going to need to rethink your priorities. Maybe you’ve been settling for a certain type of person because you think that’s your type, but maybe you’re wrong. Maybe you need to do a little self-exploration. After all, if you keep committing to the same personality with a different body, then you’re bound to face the same problems. You’re bound to feel like every relationship ends the same, when really, it’s your relationships that are ending the same because you’re picking the same type of people.
It’s not your fault that you gravitate toward certain brands of people – but you need to ask yourself what you really want in a relationship. Do you really need to be with a bad boy, or are you simply searching for someone who makes you feel alive, someone who makes every date feel exciting and new? Do you really need to be with the class clown who won’t commit or take anything seriously, or are you simply searching for someone who can make you laugh and has fun with you? You can find those qualities in other types of people who might not come with the same weaknesses.
If you get rid of a bad partner, then get into a new relationship with someone who is just as bad, you aren’t doing yourself any favors. Instead of jumping into a new relationship with someone who checks all the same boxes as the last person (who wasn’t good for you either), make sure that you sit down and think about what you really want in a relationship. Consider what type of person will make you happy and then start searching for them.
Groundhogging is incredibly common, especially in modern dating, because you feel pressured to pick someone and settle down. You don’t always take the time to analyze what you want from someone new because you’re excited to be moving on from the last person – and then you don’t end up realizing that they’re different shades of the same person. In order to break this cycle, raise your standards. Don’t apologize for being picky. But don’t be afraid to date someone different than you usually go for either. After all, if what you’re doing isn’t working, you might as well try something new. You might as well see where a different path leads you.