Jakob Wandel

The Mistake You Keep Making In Relationships, Based On Your Zodiac + Tarot

Aries

Your card: King of Swords

You’re ready to go, always. It can be exhausting. When you partner just wants to relax, you’re trying to get them to agree to some sort of adventure. And that 0-60 vibe means you’re also quick to anger. Chill for once and think before you do or say something you’ll regret.

Taurus

Your card: 4 of Cups

You grow too comfortable, too fast. Your partner will still be in the adventurous honeymoon period and you’ve already moved on to the sitting-on-the-couch comfort of a couple who’s been married for decades. Past partners have called you boring. Either ignore those feelings of apathy or find someone who goes at your speed.

Gemini

Your card: Ace of Cups

You love the beginnings of relationships. The butterflies, the first kisses. All those new feelings–it’s exciting! Unfortunately, the rest of the relationship never really lives up to the way it feels when it starts. This is all on you, of course. Maybe you’re just not ready for a real long term relationship.

Cancer

Your card: 2 of Pentacles

You struggle with the give and take of a relationship sometimes. You bristle when your partner wants something from you, even if you can give it freely. Rather, you want everything to be at your pace. That’s not what partnership is, though. If your relationships keep ending because you’re not “on the same page,” this is why.

Leo

Your card: 10 of Cups

Things tend to just fall in your lap. You attract a lot of people and don’t usually have to try. While that strokes your ego nicely, maybe letting people come to you means you aren’t searching for the people who are actually right for you. Your complacency is holding you back from finding the one.

Virgo

Your card: The Devil

You keep finding yourself falling for people who seem great on paper, but fail miserably in reality. Quit picking partners based on a list of criteria. Who cares if they have a fancy job if they’re also boring and annoying? You can do so much better, Virgo. How they make you feel is way more important than all that other stuff.

Libra

Your card: Queen of Pentacles

You’ve taken the “do as I say, not as I do” approach. You give such great relationship advice, but when it comes to your own relationships, you keep failing in the same ways over and over again. Start taking your own advice. If you wouldn’t want your friend going through this, then you shouldn’t want it for yourself, either.

Scorpio

Your card: Wheel of Fortune

You wait for destiny and fate to help you find the one. While it’s nice to believe in luck, that doesn’t mean you should leave everything to fate. Don’t sit back and wait for good things to come to you. And don’t blame your bad luck anytime something doesn’t go your way. Be present in your relationships and go for what you want.

Sagittarius

Your card: 6 of Wands

Your pride is your undoing in relationships. You’re so focused on winning and being right that you drive away the people you love. Partnership is about compromise and caring about the person you’re with. All that pride and ego is showing your partner that you’ll always be number one and they’ll never be enough for you. Get the ego in check!

Capricorn

Your card: 2 of Cups

Your best relationships are ones filled with mutual trust and respect. That’s all you’ve ever wanted. The problem is you keep settling for relationships that have neither. Wait for the epic love that you’re always hoping for or you’ll end up in one bad relationship after another.

Aquarius

Your card: The Fool

You thrive at the beginning of relationships but get bored as soon as they get comfortable. The chase is what makes you excited–and when your partner is caught, you’ve lost the desire to be with them. Unfortunately, you don’t usually end it as soon as you know it’s not going to work. Don’t stay with someone you don’t like. They deserve more than that.

Pisces

Your card: King of Pentacles

You know what you want, it’s just a matter of actually going out and getting it. Sometimes the vision you have in your head doesn’t match reality–and you’re filled with disappointment. You’re rarely in the mood enough to even go on a first date, let alone enter an actual relationship. If you want something, get out of your head and just go for it.