Why Your Zodiac Sign Self-Sabotages Love

Do you feel unlucky in love? Does it seem like the person you have a crush on never likes you back, the timing isn’t right, or something always happens to blow up your relationships? If so, you could be subconsciously self-sabotaging your love life. You hold certain beliefs or have patterns of behavior that prevent you from getting the love of your dreams. Here’s why your zodiac sign self-sabotages relationships, and what you can do to change it.

Aries: You’re Too Independent

You love doing things on your own, bold Aries, and you hate being tied down. But being in a relationship doesn’t make you any less of an independent free spirit – you could have someone by your side to enjoy all your wild adventures with you! You subconsciously sabotage relationships because you don’t want to play by anyone else’s rules. Consider that you can find someone who thinks just like you, and you could make up your own rules together! 

Taurus: You’re Too Comfortable

There’s no denying that you crave comfort, sweet Taurus – you are gentle and sensual, and love cozying up on the couch with your loved one. You’re either too set in your ways as a single person, or you’ve gotten so comfortable in a relationship you know is toxic that you refuse to leave. Either way, you’re going to have to break out of your comfort zone if you want to change your love life. Put yourself out there more or finally move on from that relationship you know is holding you back.

Gemini: You Can’t Commit

Let’s face it, clever Gemini, it’s easy for you to connect with people – but it’s hard to find someone who really understands you. Your personality is so multifaceted that it seems impossible that one person could actually satisfy all your heart’s desires. You’re also very indecisive, changing what you want in a relationship from one day to the next. But rest assured: your perfect match is out there. There are plenty of people who can keep up with your chameleonic ways, and they will take the time to explore the depths of your personality. Just be patient and commit to one person for a while, and see what happens.

Cancer: You’re Too Guarded

You’ve had your heart broken before, sensitive Cancer, and you’re too afraid of it happening again. It’s hard for you to let anyone in because you’ve learned that vulnerability can lead to pain. And once you DO allow someone into your heart you never let them go, even if they’re bad for you, because you don’t want to start over again with someone new. You have to accept that risk and pain are just part of the process of finding your soulmate – and there is also plenty of love and laughter along the way to balance it out. When you open yourself up to ALL possibilities, the love you deserve will find you.

Leo: You Need to Be the Star

You love the limelight, stunning Leo, and you need to be the star in the relationship. Even when you’re making grand romantic gestures for your partner (which you love to do), it’s really about how it makes you look and feel. If your partner is overshadowing you or not giving you enough attention, you’ll get that attention somewhere else. You need to focus more deeply on the other person – you have a big, generous heart, so you’re more than capable. Just work on being more selfless and putting your partner first – let them be the star that shines brightest every once in a while.

Virgo: You’re Too Picky

Most people need to raise their standards when it comes to relationships, but not you, careful Virgo. Your standards are so high that nobody measures up. You enter relationships with the intention of “fixing” your partner, then become frustrated when they don’t change. You sabotage your love life by looking for flaws and wanting your partner to be something they’re not. You’ve got to accept that no one can meet your incredibly long checklist of what you’re looking for in a partner, and know that the person you’re dating is exactly what you’re going to get – they won’t evolve into a different person just because you can point out their flaws. Work on unconditional love and acceptance for yourself and others, and be less critical of your dear ones. 

Libra: You’re Too Accepting

You love being in love, dear Libra, to the point that you overlook bright red flags. You’ll give anyone a chance, (usually multiple chances), even when you know they’re bad for you. You also just want to be in love so badly that you’ll stay in a toxic or mediocre relationship just to have someone around. You are always working on self-improvement, so why not hold your partner to the same standards? Don’t date someone you wouldn’t want your best friend to date, and get brutally honest with yourself about whether or not you’re currently in the right relationship.

Scorpio: You’re Too Controlling

You want a passionate, lasting, all-consuming love more than anything, intense Scorpio. You know how to come across as easy-going and free-spirited, but secretly you’re very jealous in relationships. You can also be a bit controlling, and it sabotages your love life – remember, you’re dating a person, not a doormat or a projection of your fantasies. Your relationship is for you to experience your partner, not possess them. Give your partner space and let them be themselves, and your love will flourish and grow. 

Sagittarius: You Won’t Compromise

You want a partner to join you on your fun adventures, brave Sagittarius, but it’s the daily routine and other serious stuff in relationships that you don’t enjoy. You’re always on the go and hate putting down roots, and a romantic partner sometimes feels like an anchor that’s dragging you down. But sacrifice is part of any relationship, even if that sacrifice just means committing to one person or place. You’ll stop sabotaging yourself when you accept that relationships are worth the compromise, and the right person can help make every day feel more like an adventure. 

Capricorn: You Don’t Share Your Feelings

You have an unfair reputation as being serious and stoic, ambitious Capricorn, but deep down you’re surprisingly sensitive. You just have a hard time showing your feelings and opening up to people. Even when you want to be vulnerable, you’re not quite sure how to express yourself. As a result, your crush or partner may think you’ve lost interest or don’t care about them. You’ve got to learn how to open up, even when it’s uncomfortable, to make your special someone feel loved.

Aquarius: You’re Too Stubborn

You hate labels and anything conventional, quirky Aquarius, but a loving partner will want to know that you’re as invested in the relationship as they are. You can be very stubborn, but you have to bend a little to get the relationship you want in return. You’re independent and set in your ways, and you might have to change your habits a bit if you want to build a life with someone else. You’ll stop sabotaging yourself when you’re willing to be more flexible to accommodate your partner’s emotional needs.

Pisces: You’re Too Unrealistic

You want a love that matches what you’ve seen in Disney movies and fairy tales, dreamy Pisces, and to a certain extent, you can have it – there’s just a lot of practical, real-life stuff that you also have to consider. Love can’t always be romantic strolls on the beach and riding off into the sunset together – there are chores, bills, and other responsibilities to contend with, too. It’s nice to have a partner to share every experience with, both good and bad, as long as you don’t expect them to romanticize every moment. Don’t give up when things get too real – love can make everything seem more magical, but you’ve got to keep your feet on the ground.