10 Women Explain Why They Rejected A Marriage Proposal
Alexa, play “champagne problems” by Taylor Swift. Here are 10 women on why they rejected a marriage proposal.
He proposed in public (even after she told him she’d hate a public proposal).
Had mention multiple times I would loath and hate a public proposal. I don’t even want it in front of any friends and family in a more private setting. Yeah did it in front of a whole group of strangers at the “view point/ picture point” of a hike. I just walked off trying not to cry as I hate having all eyes on me. It makes me anxious and want to hyperventilate. That was a very quiet 2.5 miles back to the car.
sluttypidge
He proposed after cheating.
My ex tried proposing to me a month after I broke up with him because he was cheating, I regret being nice and submissive to him but at least I had enough sanity and courage to say no.
BundleOfSad
Marriage wasn’t her thing.
I’ve already been married once and I didn’t like it. Divorce is a long process especially when children are involved.
abcd_itsme
He wasn’t taking care of his mental health.
He had just gone through a major life upheaval and was clearly reeling from it and not taking care of himself. I told him I wasn’t willing to commit until he attended to his mental health — for both his sake and mine, because I didn’t trust that the commitment from him was coming from a healthy place and not the general emotional upheaval that he was going through. He did not attend to his mental health — instead he sank into alcoholism and substance abuse over the next year or so and we broke up.
soniabegonia
He was more into it than she was.
We were in different places in the relationship. He was way more sure than I was. I needed more time to see if I could get to that place. He didn’t want to offer me that. That was a huge red flag for me, that he didn’t care about my needs. I stood my ground.
We parted ways.
It was the right thing.
findquasar
He asked while she was in the process of breaking up with him.
He asked me as I was breaking up with him because one of the reasons (but definitely not the main reason) I left is because he didn’t want to get married or have children.
MrsAlwaysWrighty
They were on different pages.
He proposed. I broke it off with him. It was unfair to stay in a relationship where I knew I would never get to the place he was in. A few years later we each got married to other people, had our weddings two weeks apart. Sadly his wife passed away 2 years later from an unexpected medical condition that doctors were unable to diagnose. Gave my condolences but we haven’t been in touch all those years.
Deserted-mermaid
The relationship wasn’t going to go anywhere.
We didn’t get married. We also broke up after a bit because we both realised it wasn’t going anywhere. I don’t regret saying no, and I don’t regret the relationship. It was a nice season in my life, that ended when it needed to happen.
neveraftet
He proposed as a means to manipulate her to get back together after he dumped her.
He proposed to me because he was trying to get me back after unceremoniously dumping me, dissapearing for months, and resurfacing . I had no intention of speaking to him other than to tell him I wasn’t interested, when he reached out. He tried for months to get my attention back, and then I guess the proposal was his Hail Mary? I told him I wasn’t even interested in having dinner with him, let alone spending my life with him. Felt good, man. He hurt me bad when he up and left. He’s doing fine now I think.
Own-Emergency2166
She wasn’t ready yet.
I wasn’t ready yet. I knew we’d get married and I was pregnant at the time but he proposed to me over health insurance and it wasn’t romantic so I said no. But a few years later I proposed to him, we’ve been married almost three years. Together for five. So it worked out!
NerdyWritingGirl