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6 Concrete Signs You’re More Likely To Settle For A Bare Minimum Love

You have a fear of confrontation.

You donโ€™t want to voice your frustrations because you donโ€™t want to cause a fight. You would rather avoid the drama by staying silent. But this means youโ€™re letting them get away with their behavior. They wonโ€™t have any incentive to change the way theyโ€™re acting because they either donโ€™t realize youโ€™re unsatisfied or they realize that they can get away with it without consequence. Even though itโ€™s common to have a fear of confrontation, you have to remember that tough conversations can be a good thing. It can make your relationship stronger when youโ€™re with the right person, a person who is willing to grow and do whatโ€™s best for you.

You feel like youโ€™re running out of time.

If you are trying to stick to some imaginary timeline and feel pressured to settle down ASAP, then you might pick the first person you find and decide that theyโ€™re good enough. As long as they arenโ€™t treating you horribly, you might stay because you feel like youโ€™re running out of time and options. But you have to remember, you can find love at any age. You arenโ€™t as behind as you feel.

Youโ€™ve had bad relationship role models โ€“ or have been in bad relationships in the past.

When the relationships youโ€™re used to are terrible, then anyone who treats you halfway decent will feel like a breath of fresh air. But just because someone treats you better than your ex did doesnโ€™t mean theyโ€™re actually treating you well. It doesnโ€™t mean theyโ€™re the perfect partner.

You struggle with your self-worth.

If you donโ€™t realize how much you deserve, then thereโ€™s a chance youโ€™re going to settle for someone who isnโ€™t meeting your standards. Thereโ€™s a chance youโ€™ll believe them when they tell you that you should be happy with what theyโ€™re giving you, that you should take what you can get. If you donโ€™t realize that you deserve the world, then you probably wonโ€™t ask for nearly as much as you should be getting.

You get attached easily.

If you fall in love easily, before you have the chance to really get to know this person, then thereโ€™s a chance youโ€™ll realize they werenโ€™t what you originally thought. Thereโ€™s a chance that youโ€™ll wake up one morning and realize that youโ€™re with the type of person you swore you would never date. But if youโ€™re already attached to them and are hesitant to leave, you might stay with someone who never deserved you.

Youโ€™re scared of being alone.

If you have no interest in ending the relationship, even though they arenโ€™t making you happy, then you might not call them out on their BS. After all, you donโ€™t want to chase them away. You donโ€™t want to give them a reason to leave, and you know that speaking your mind could end the relationship. So you never ask for more. You settle for less than you deserve because you wrongly assume being in the wrong relationship beats being alone.