When it comes to marriage, it’s always the goal to marry your soulmate, right? We all hope for that fairytale love, but if divorce statistics are any indication, not everyone gets that kind of happy ending. Still, there are some relationships out there that prove that soulmates exist, that the chest-warming, goosebumps-inducing love is still out there. Perhaps your marriage is one of them?
1. You know everything about each other, and still haven’t gotten bored.
Your relationship has gone through all the stages, from those first few months of lust-filled, adventurous dates to the engagement process and then the wedding. And now, when so many other married couples start to get comfortable and even bored, it’s like every day is still an adventure together.
2. With them, you feel like your most comfortable self.
You never have to pretend to be someone you’re not. You can be your goofy, silly self, and know that not only will your spouse love you that way, but they’ll join in as well. Now you can be weird soulmates together for the rest of your lives.
3. Your combined listening and empathy skills are still top-notch.
You both are amazing listeners and are there for each other when things get tough. No ignoring each other. No silent treatment during fights. You lead with compassion because you know how much you mean to each other.
4. You encourage each other to have separate interests.
A healthy marriage includes each of your having your own lives, your own interests. Maybe you have a book club and video games and your spouse has knitting and rock-climbing. A healthy relationship is knowing that you don’t have to be together 24/7 to be soulmates. In fact, it’s better if you aren’t.
5. You’re evolving together, rather than apart.
We all change over our lives. Even when we try to stay the same, our interests and personalities morph. If you’re soulmates, both of you are changing in the same direction, still partners in the new lives you lead as your marriage grows.
6. Whatever comes your way, you’re on the same team.
You’ve already likely had to weather some tough times together, from illness to job loss. And each time, you’re a team. You know you can handle anything if you’re doing it as a pair.
7. After all this time, you still haven’t gotten sick of each other.
The marriages that end? There are always signs, chief among them that they don’t seem to ever get along. They’ll say “I do” as they’re already sick of each other. But not you. Every day is a new adventure.
8. You can’t image a future without them.
The idea of not being with your spouse? It’s impossible to even comprehend. Your soulmate is a staple of your life, and there’s no way you could be without them.