10 Singles Reveal Whether They’ll Judge You Over Your Romantic Past
Does your number really matter? According to these people from Ask Reddit, not really. Here’s what they have to say:
“No, to a point. To me, the past only matter in its ability to catch up to the present. If someone has had sex with 50 people but it never has a negative effect on our life together and she still enjoys sex with me, then it’s not a problem. However if someone has had sex with 5 people and all 5 are frequently coming back into her life and causing drama for both of us, or if she can’t enjoy sex with me due to comparing it to a past partner, then that it is an issue. So to me it’s not the number, but the affect of the number. With that being said, it’s not something I would ask about because typically if the past is going to be a problem there are better warning signs.” — TheNatanist
“As long as the count doesn’t continue increasing during the relationship, it doesn’t matter at all. I have a past too.” — Odd-You-6869
“To me it’s about motive. And if they are emotionally mature enough to know their reasons for having a lot or a little sex. If you had a lot of partners, why? For fun? Filling a void? Sex addiction? If you’ve had barely any partners. Why? Self conscious? Religious? Safety? I’m interested in the emotional reasons for either having a lot or a little partners. For me it lets me know a lot about another person. I know it tells a lot about myself to my partner.” — elmatador12
“It’s easy for me to sit here and say that it doesn’t matter, but I know that’s at least in part because I know my number is within one of my partners. I don’t know how I would feel if that weren’t the case, but I definitely recognize that it would be my problem to deal with, not hers.” — ThingThatsJustBegun
“I couldn’t care less. If he didn’t meet the people he met and experience the things he did, he wouldn’t be who he is today. I love him for everything he stands for and for everything he’s lived through. Not for what or who he did.” — Dependent-Net824
“So long as they haven’t hooked up with my entire friend group, I don’t care.” — heinous_nutsack
“It does not matter to me however I’m cautious of STDs/STIs so I’d prefer they get tested before we have sex.” — OddReputation3765
“Number doesn’t matter, but the pattern might. Someone who’s had a bunch of hookups when they were younger, or after a long term relationship broke down before they were ready to start dating seriously again wouldn’t bother me. If they’d had a whole bunch of 3 month long relationships and never anything long term then that would be a potential red flag.” — Apsalar28
“For me, a very introverted person, sex is one of the most intimate things in a relationship. And if the other person doesn’t need the same emotional connection beforehand. I would feel just like another body in their ‘collection.’ But also I don’t shame anybody partaking in the hookup culture. It’s just not something for me.” — justshynotathrowaway
“Yes because a high body count means we value sex differently. I won’t judge anybody for how they see or live sex but I’m not compatible with someone who only sees the fun part in it.” — tommimoro