For The Humans Who Feel Unloved
Julia Ivanina

For The Humans Who Feel Unloved

For a moment, let’s set aside the fact that you’re probably more loved than you realize. You might not be in a relationship, but someone could be crushing on you from afar. You might not see your friends every single day but they could be thinking of you right now. You might not keep in touch with certain family members but they might be missing you madly. You might feel like no one cares but there is love all around you. 

Even if you have no one right now, your existence is still worthwhile. You still have value. Your thoughts still matter. Your happiness still matters. You can’t give up on yourself because you’re too busy worrying about everyone else’s opinions. What other people think of you doesn’t make a difference. All that matters is whether you love yourself, respect yourself, take care of yourself. You might have a love-hate relationship with yourself, but that can change. You can change.

Even if you have no one right now, that doesn’t mean you won’t have anyone in the future. You could meet your new best friend tomorrow. But you need to put yourself out there. And that’s not as scary as it sounds. You don’t have to walk up to strangers and introduce yourself. You can simply go to the coffee shop, go about your daily chores, and stay open to the idea of interacting with others. Instead of keeping your head down and wearing headphones, look others in the eye and smile. Interact, even if it’s on the most basic level. There are some cruel people in this world who only want to tear you down, but there are beautiful people, too. And they aren’t as far away as you might think.

Even if you have no one right now, you have yourself, and that’s the one person you should focus on the most. You can’t force anyone else to fall in love with you or become best friends with you. You have no control over their behaviors. But you have complete control over your own. Even though your insecurities might get the best of you at times, you can work toward changing the way you look at the person in the mirror. Start treating yourself with more kindness. Compliment the areas you love about yourself and accept the pieces you cannot stand. Remember that you are a wonderful, worthwhile human being, even on the days when you’re feeling your lowest. Your value doesn’t come from how many people are friends with you on social media or how many party invites you get on weekends. Your worth comes from within.

There are probably plenty of people out there who love you dearly, who want what’s best for you and wish you realized how much they care — but even if you have no one, that’s okay. So many people feel like they’re on an island. So many people are searching for a connection. You aren’t alone in your feelings, even though it might feel like it right now. You need to believe in yourself. Trust yourself. Hold on. Soon, everything is going to be okay. You can’t give up on yourself.