How To Solve This Problem In Your Romantic Connection (Astrology + Tarot Reading)

Aries

Your Card: The Emperor

Your need to always be right might be what’s preventing you from fully understanding the issues at hand, Aries. You have your side, but they also have their side as well. You might be thinking too deeply about how their actions have affected you without also considering how your actions may have led to their choices. You may be projecting a lot of your own wrongdoing onto this other person as well, Aries. If you’re trying to understand where they are coming from, play a little devil’s advocate. Remove yourself as best as you can from your point of view and really try to see things from their perspective. 

Taurus

Your Card: Three of Swords

The pain that you are dealing with now may be the result of the same patterns you have yet to grow out of, Taurus. Though you think you’ve changed throughout your love life and that things are different for you now, the Three of Swords indicates otherwise. You may be playing out the same situations over and over again and the reason why you are unable to see this is because though the context has changed, your ways of dealing with these situations haven’t. Try to analyze what went wrong in past connections and ask yourself what has changed and what is the same. Yes, it’s fair to say that the people you’ve dated in the past had their problems to deal with, but at a certain point, you must recognize that the common denominator in all that is you. This doesn’t mean that you are a bad person by any means, but what this means is that you must be the change you want to see in your partners and your love life, or else you’ll continue to suffer the same pain over and over again. If you’re dealing with issues in a specific connection currently, you might have to let this go. For now at least, until you can sort your issues out first. Otherwise, this connection could suffer the same fate as others in the past have. 

Gemini

Your Card: The Sun

You’re thinking in black and white, Gemini. A lot of the time, you see people as either great are terrible. You either love someone or you hate them. But people are complex. Nobody is perfect and nobody is capable of being a hundred percent good all the time. That’s impossible. The expectations that you are setting are way too high. It would help to give a bit more grace and not beat your connection up. If they’ve done or said something that you take offensively, focus on the intent. You tend to take things out of context or read into a nefarious subtext that isn’t always there. If you are continuously seeking perfection then you’ll always be disappointed. 

Cancer

Your Card: Eight of Wands

To solve this problem, you must initiate communication and express how you’re feeling without fear of how the other person will react, Cancer. You are so concerned with rocking the boat and disturbing the peace that it may be costing you your peace. Don’t be afraid of upsetting the other person. They’ll respect where you’re coming from, and if they don’t, then that says more about them than it does about you. Sometimes you have a hard time with communication because you feel like it’s your place in the world to be easygoing. But at times, you give off the impression that others can push you around and cross your boundaries whenever they want because they sense that you’re not going to react. Don’t let this be the case anymore. As soon as a problem arises, address it. Though this problem took place some time ago, still bring it up. Don’t think that there’s a window of opportunity that you have missed. Convincing yourself this will only allow the issue to build up inside of you causing further resentment. 

Leo

Your Card: The Hermit

The best thing that you can do right now is take time to think, Leo. You’re quite quick to react without first sitting with your emotions and understanding the root of the issue. Because of this, you tend to act irrationally thus causing more conflict. Get in the habit of allowing your tumultuous feelings to pass before you say what you have to say. It seems that whatever issue you’re having in a romantic connection right now is being blown way out of proportion because you felt the need to react on the spot without considering the full context first. So for now, before you make matters worse, take some time to think and articulate your thoughts to yourself. That way you are more clearly able to communicate where you are coming from. Being so reactive and defensive will only close the other person off. Taking this time away from the problem and allowing things to simmer first will not only help you but allow the other person the space they need to remove themselves from their emotions. This will help to de-escalate the problem. 

Virgo

Your Card: Nine of Cups

You are such a hermit, Virgo. You keep most of your thoughts and your feelings to yourself. It is your nature to do so. You always feel that it is best to just keep your emotions hidden out of fear of what others might say or think but this is costing you this connection that you share with this other person. This connection you share has all the workings of a lasting and loving relationship but what’s missing is you’re ability to open up and become vulnerable with them. They might sense a disconnect from your end and maybe misinterpret it as a lack of interest. Though we both know that you are interested, the other person doesn’t know that. There is no need to fear getting hurt within this connection. It seems the other person has good intentions with you but as the saying goes, closed mouths don’t get fed. Be vulnerable, open up to them, and let them know how you truly feel, or else you’ll regret it. I know you fear getting hurt but you have more to lose from playing it safe than from diving in head first into this connection and allowing your emotions to guide you. 

Libra

Your Card: Knight of Swords

You might be taking the other person’s kindness for granted, Libra. Which is quite unlike you. In the past, it’s usually been you who felt taken advantage of in past relationships. So without realizing it, you might be trying to inflict the same pain others have brought unto you on this current romantic connection you share. I know you don’t mean to do so. And what I’m saying may come as a surprise. This person has good intentions and is trying to remain patient with you as you have with others in the past but letting this continue may lead to an unfavorable outcome. Don’t take their kindness as a sign of weakness. If this continues they may take actions that could harm the relationship. 

Scorpio

Your Card: The Hanged Man

You may be projecting your baggage onto this connection without realizing it, Scorpio. This person isn’t like the others you have dated in the past. They are their own unique individual that has nothing to do with those who have hurt you. You’re looking for ill intent where there isn’t any. You’re trying to predict any negative outcome when that was never on the table to begin with. I understand that you’re just trying to protect your heart, but this might cause you to push the other person away completely. Instead of trying to constantly draw parallels between their words or actions and the words and actions of others, you must instead judge them as their own unique person. Just because they’re complementing your hair or something arbitrary like that just as your ex did, doesn’t mean they’re going to hurt you like your ex did. 

Sagittarius

Your Card: Six of Cups

Remind yourself of why you fell for this person in the first place, Sagittarius. This will help ground you. You and your romantic connection may be experiencing some sort of period of turmoil where the honeymoon phase has worn off and the cracks are beginning to form. Just because you two are having issues, doesn’t mean that it’s not going to work out in the long run. You must learn to live with certain aspects of their character but also remember that who they are now is the same person that you fell in love with in the beginning. 

Capricorn

Your Card: Judgement

It seems that you don’t have all the facts just yet, Capricorn. You may be feeling a bit trigger-friendly right now. In other words, you might be feeling as if it’s time to pull the plug on this connection completely. But give it more time before you come to your decision. Things may not be as bad as you are making them out to be in your head. Honestly, you’re being a bit too judgmental. I know this is out of a need to protect your heart, but this may translate into you putting up walls that will make it impossible for even the right person to tear down. You always feel like you have to constantly test your romantic connections and if they don’t pass with flying colors, then you say goodbye. While it’s great that you have your standards set and you shouldn’t lower them, I think you’re being a bit too quick with writing this person off. Give it time, and let emotions come to light naturally. You don’t have to interrogate the other person. In time, you’ll see that they might be exactly what you’re looking for in the end. They just might need a bit more time to show you this. 

Aquarius

Your Card: Four of Pentacles

You might be feeling a bit overwhelmed by this connection right now, Aquarius. They may be feeling as if they’re losing you somehow and are overreacting by being clingy or needy. Therefore, this might be causing you to feel suffocated and feel the need to pull away to create some distance. And by you trying to create some emotional distance, it is only triggering their anxiety more causing them to chase you even harder and become even more needy. I understand that you care about them but they may not understand that. They may be seeing your actions as a sign that you don’t care as much as they do. You enjoy your freedom and not feeling constantly tied down by life or the people around you. But don’t think that you have lost your freedom by being in a relationship. You are still you even if you’re with someone right now. You must remember that being in a relationship means that you have to take the other person’s feelings into account. You can’t just roll like a rolling stone. You must communicate how you are feeling and reassure them that you taking space doesn’t mean you don’t love them. This is just what you need right now emotionally and they will understand. Leaving them in the dark will just hurt them and erode their trust in you. 

Pisces

Your Card: Seven of Pentacles

You’re putting in way too much work right now, Pisces. You may be feeling like the love you feel for them is unreciprocated and so to close the distance you are giving way more than what you are receiving. This will only cause you to feel empty in the end. Perhaps it’s time to start giving back to yourself and fulfilling your own needs. Yes, our romantic connection should make us feel validated to some degree, however, we can’t expect other people to fill a void that only we can fill. You are still responsible for your own happiness regardless of the romantic connection that you share. Letting your happiness become dependent upon whether or not your connection is reciprocating in the way that you want can lead to further disappointment.