How Each Zodiac Will Recognize Their Soulmate

ARIES (3/21 – 4/19)

You’ll let them win.

It will start off small, Aries, without you even being aware it’s happening. Somehow you’ll be giving up your usual side of the bed, letting them control the thermostat, renouncing your claim to the last brownie. And then one day, you’ll be looking at them in the middle of a heated argument, one with a few tears and some name calling involved, and betraying every last fiber of your being, you’ll say sorry first. 

Because even at your most annoyed, angry, emotionally exhausted, or resentful, they’re still yours. Still the person whose face makes you forget whatever started the fight in the first place. And hugging them, smelling them, giving them the biggest squeeze will suddenly become a priority over getting the last word in. 

Recognizing your soul mate puts an undisclosed end date on the calendar. The long run doesn’t go on indefinitely, and that part of love that reminds us of our own mortality makes you not want to waste a moment of what you have left in an argument.

TAURUS (4/20 – 5/20)

You’ll want to spend more on them than anyone before.

It comes as a shock to no one that gift giving is your love language, Taurus, but your soulmate will inspire splurging you’ve never encountered, not even for yourself. You always have your sights on some big ticket item. Whenever you have a bonus coming, you start shopping before the deposit is even made. But when your soulmate comes into the picture, you’ll put those plans aside and start noticing things they’d like everywhere.

It will be affordable enough at first. You’ll pick up their favorite snack, a cute pair of sweatpants, tickets to the concert they want to see. Spoiling them will become part of your regular expenses.

You’ll know you’re dealing with your soulmate when you have a powerful urge to go all in on a showstopper item. Not anything they need. Not something they asked for. You’ll just see something that makes you say to yourself, “I want them to have this,” regardless of how impractical it may seem. Giving them something they’ll have forever will be your way of saying you want that long too. 

GEMINI (5/21 – 6/20)

You will effectively communicate with each other.

Something will just click, Gemini. Whatever it was that your past partners weren’t able to give you, no matter how many times you spelled it out, your soulmate will just do it from day one. Common courtesies like texting you their ETA on the way to a date and much bigger things like being transparent about their life goals. You will never need to second guess where they stand or what they want. 

It might be a little overwhelming at first, because you are not used to digging this deep with another person. You may even need to do some soul searching on your own first because you haven’t looked so far ahead before. Your past relationships didn’t offer you the security to really imagine a future together.

But you’ll know your soulmate when you are able to confidently say what it is that you want from life. You’ll appreciate the intentional conversations that brought you to your conclusions and the partnership that allows the two of you to figure out where both of your dreams fit together.

CANCER (6/21 – 7/22)

They’ll bring out your soft side.

Your soulmate, Cancer, will be the person you can cry in front of. Angry tears, hormonal tears, ugly, snotty tears, the-dog-just-died-in-the-movie-and-even-though-we-both-saw-this-coming-I’m-still-completely-wrecked tears. And it will be way more vulnerable than letting them see you naked, but at some point, because it’s with the right person, it will become just as comfortable.

They will become the outlet you never knew you needed, because you’ve had a way of rationalizing all these feelings in the past. In many ways, you’ve been your own personal therapist. But you’ll recognize your soulmate in the moment you stop analyzing everything and just allow yourself to feel your negative emotions. When you feel safe enough to explore a side of you you’ve hidden away out of embarrassment. 

Once you let the right partner have that kind of emotional access to you, you’ll never want to go back to your old way of doing things again. You’ll just realize this is how it’s supposed to be. 

LEO (7/23 – 8/22)

You’ll want to stay at home with them on the weekends.

Don’t get confused, Leo. You don’t recognize your soulmate during a 48-hour sex marathon, although we all know that’s well within your wheelhouse. This isn’t the excitement or obsession that comes from having a new plaything. You’ll see your soulmate when you find yourself settled into a routine you’ve spent a lifetime avoiding.

The moment you realize you get more enjoyment waking up to coffee and the crossword with your partner than you do from showing up hungover to brunch, you’ll realize just how life changing the relationship truly is. By no means are you going to magically turn into an introvert, but you’ll stop feeling that anxiety to constantly have and make plans. 

The home you find and build within your relationship will bring you a truer and fuller contentment than you have known. Small talk and cocktails will no longer compete with genuine connection. So you’ll be left with no choice but to deepen your other relationships to better align with the person you’ve become.

VIRGO (8/23 – 9/22)

You will show them your mistakes.

Your soulmate, Virgo, will be the person with whom you can acknowledge and share your full past. Your failures, your shame, your regrets, and your frustration. Something about them will unlock, and then allow you to heal from, the most unpleasant memories of your past.

When you stop curating your successes, like a trophy case that’s never full enough for you, and allow the full picture to come into focus, you’ll realize just how hard you’ve been on yourself. It’s only through your partner’s outside perspective that you’ll finally be able to give yourself credit for the effort it took to get you this far.

For you, a soulmate is not only the person who gasses you up but shows you how to be your own best cheerleader too. The one who reminds you what you’re capable of and pushes you to reach for whatever it is you’ve been afraid to try. The person you come to when you hit a road bump because you’re secure enough in their love to not be afraid of disappointing them.

LIBRA (9/23 – 10/22)

You will support each other where you need it most.

As the most well-rounded zodiac, Libra, you pride yourself on being able to do it all. You were that student who could ace the test, succeed on the playing field, and still have energy left for a part-time job. Recognizing your soulmate will come in the moment you give up at something and allow your partner to take over.

Maybe you have a knack for picking out the best restaurants, whether they’re high-end or holes in the wall, but planning a vacation or a move gives you a headache. Your soulmate will be the person you trust to do your grunt work while appreciating the areas you’re comfortable doing the heavy lifting.

From daily chores to emotional maintenance, the two of you will balance out each other’s strengths and weaknesses in a way that makes both of your lives feel a little lighter and run much more smoothly. With each new task you tackle side by side you’ll realize it’s not laundry or taxes but really life you’re doing together. 

SCORPIO (10/23 – 11/21)

You’ll be thinking about how much you love them in the middle of sex.

You won’t believe it until you experience it yourself, Scorpio, since the concept seems so foreign to you. You’ve been in love before, and you’re no stranger to sex, but these experiences have lived in separate silos for most of your life.

Your soulmate will be the person who bridges the gap between the two, pulling your attention from the tangible, physical experience back to your emotional bond. You’ve always been intentional with your sexual encounters, but you’ll feel a sudden and significant shift in the intention itself. Your actions have historically communicated the extent of your desire for your partner, but with your soulmate you will find the message transformed into one of outpouring love. 

You will find vulnerability in an act that previously gave you a sense of power and control. You will see your partner and be seen for who each of you truly are, as opposed to focusing solely on the exterior. Your soulmate is the person you see yourself being intimate with 20, 30, 40 years from now, no matter how they age.

SAGITTARIUS (11/22 – 12/21)

You’ll let them tame you.

Finding your soulmate, Sagittarius, is like watching a TikTok of someone with a pet they probably shouldn’t be allowed to have, like a raccoon or a squirrel or a fox. You can only be domesticated by someone foolish, reckless, and determined enough to try.

You’re just not built to be someone’s starter-kit partner, so the people who are hard-wired to always be in a relationship will not find their match in you. You need a lot of space, freedom, and stimulation to thrive. You’re nobody’s lap dog. But the person who is willing to put in the time and effort to really bond with you and earn your trust is someone you’re willing to be still with or bring along on your next adventure.

Taming you doesn’t involve breaking your spirit or getting you to adhere to a strict set of behaviors. It’s someone becoming your home base. You’re like a hawk that needs to be set free to fly, who always brings its catch back to the same wrist. 

CAPRICORN (12/22 – 1/19)

You’ll write them into your five year plan.

Your soulmate is the person you’ve penciled in years from now, Capricorn. When you realize you’ve gone from planning your first date to celebrating their birthday to meeting their parents and your first holidays together, you are going to feel that sense of comfort assuming this pattern will continue long-term. You will transition from pencil to pen, because you’re not worried about them canceling at the last minute.

You’ll recognize the two of you are meant to be when your planning starts to include the things your partner needs to thrive and be happy. Where do you both want to live? How do you make time for both families? What are their personal and professional growth goals?

The real moment you’ll recognize them as a soulmate is the moment you see that it’s not their inclusion in your plans that makes things serious. It’s the trust you have that when the unexpected derails your expectations, you can always count on them to tackle the unknown alongside you.

AQUARIUS (1/20 – 2/18)

You will change your mind about long-term commitments. 

You’re a realist, Aquarius, and know the inherent flaws associated with societal expectations for romantic relationships. Marriages occur in abundance, as do divorces. Partnerships can exist with a lack of respect and sometimes uneven workloads. The only “role” you’re interested in playing is that of a sculptor, carving out your own unique path.

You will recognize your soulmate in the person who makes you question every preconceived notion you have about romance. The person you look at and think, “We could do this our own way, and it could turn out amazing.” The two of you marching to the beat of your own drum is something you can wholeheartedly commit to, rather than the idea of falling into conventional patterns.

The person who is going to revolutionize the definition of a modern partnership with you, is the person who is going to figure out what that means by your side. Those with a standard resume need not apply—your ideal partner will craft a job description from scratch and be truly invested in creating something new together.

PISCES (2/19 – 3/20)

They will ground you.

You will recognize your soulmate, Pisces, coming out of a daydream. You’ll snap back to reality, see them by your side, and realize how perfectly they understand you. They will give you the space to continue to cultivate that rich, mental world inside your head, but also be your sounding board to bounce all of those ideas off of when you’re ready.

When your thoughts become full of fear of anxiety, they’ll be able to tell the difference between fallacy and threat. When you are on cloud nine, thriving on the fuel of pure possibility, they will encourage your dreams, while also reminding you to take a shower and do a load of laundry. 

Your soulmate will be the person you count on for earthly, mundane needs while your mind is free to wander, planning that romantic European vacation while they figure out how to finance it. Every visionary needs someone who deals in nuts and bolts, someone who knows how to execute the perfect plan. Your person is the one you’d hire to Executive Produce a life together.