If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t waste time needing to “figure things out.” He wouldn’t delay commitment by insisting that you two should just “go with the flow” and see where that lands you.
If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t make you guess. He wouldn’t make you question where you stand. He wouldn’t send mixed signals. He wouldn’t feel like a puzzle that needed to be solved. He wouldn’t make you feel uncertain and unwanted and unappreciated.
Here’s the truth: If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t risk losing you. And by leaving you confused, by leaving you waiting, and by leaving you guessing, he is losing you.
You can give him all the time in the world to make up his mind about you. You can give him space to work through his “commitment issues.” You can show him everything you are and everything you can give him. It doesn’t matter. It really, really doesn’t.
Because if he wanted to be with you, he would be with you. He would commit without hesitation. He would be all in. He wouldn’t put you through a situationship or an endless talking stage. He wouldn’t take his chances that you’d still be interested in casual six months later.
So let him lose you. Because it’s his loss, not yours.
You don’t want who doesn’t want you.