If You Want To Stay Together Forever, Never Do These 15 Things

If you want to stay together forever, you need to treat each other right. That means you shouldn’t do any of the unreasonable things on this list:

“Couples should never assume. Never assume your wants or needs are understood by your partner. They need to be communicated. This includes both positive wants and needs, or whenever boundaries are crossed. It shouldn’t be assumed what a partner’s intention is. Sometimes we can say or do hurtful things without thinking straight or not understanding someone’s background/feelings beforehand, and we can’t assume why/how someone would react to certain words or actions. If you don’t understand why someone is acting the way they are, ask. Don’t assume. This applies to toxic situations as well. Don’t brush off someone else’s hurtful actions or words by assuming they didn’t mean it. Ask them about it. Let them know how and why you feel/reacted the way you do. And if that person is unwilling to understand, and at the worst assuming the worst of yourself, then you need to gain the courage to walk away. I wish I had been able to give myself this advice.” — SquirrelTale

“I think ignoring things that bother you instead of talking about them with the other person is a big one. For example, if their mother does something that drives you insane (that they could help prevent) then talk about it. Or if you can’t stand dishes left to soak in the sink. Don’t let it build up over years and destroy a relationship just so you don’t hurt their feelings. Sure it can be little things (socks on the floor aren’t a huge deal by themselves), but these build up over time and cause resentment. Plus, if the other person isn’t willing to try to make little changes, then how will they react if big changes have to eventually be made? Don’t be aggressive or mean about it (especially if it involves something that their family does) but communicate.” — TranslucentKittens

“Retaliation – she did this, so I’ll do that. I have a co-worker who brags about this. ‘I’ll pretend I didn’t see his text about needing a ride when his car broke down because he did this last week.’ A relationship isn’t tit-for-tat, it’s about working together.” — mel2mdl

“Knowingly put yourself in a situation where it could harm the relationship. If you wouldn’t want your SO doing it, you shouldn’t do it. Basically the Golden Rule.” — barnt_braid

“Shame the other in public. When it’s just the two of you, it’s teasing and funny. When there are others, it’s suddenly hurtful.” — hansvanhengel

“Post about their fights on social media.” — cheesedoggo

“Complain about each other to family members. You may resolve your issues with them, but your family won’t.” — omgtoxins

“Silent treatment. Boy do I hate bad communicators!” — Anicha1

“Be mean to each other. Disagreements happen. Arguments happen. Sometimes you get upset or annoyed. All that is fine, as long as it’s constructive. Being mean is poison and has no place in a healthy relationship.” — AichSmize

“Invite a third into the bedroom when they’re both not 100% confident that it’s something they want. I’ve seen some serious shit unfurl just because someone thought it’d be fun to try.” — Mattjrjr

“Flirting with other people just to get a response from your partner.” — Thetrueme1470

“Have only one of them completely in charge of finances. Even if one of you is doing all the math, get together once a month, pay your bills and discuss expenses together.” — bakerton

“There should never be an invasion of privacy. If you feel the need to look through someone’s phone, social media, or personal journal, then your relationship is already messed up.” — [deleted]

“Sleep with other people unless both agree that it is okay. I’ve been cheated on before and it’s such a horrible feeling.” — -eDgAR-

“Maybe it’s a bit cheesy but never leave without a kiss goodbye.” — [deleted]