Starting Over Beats Staying In The Wrong Relationship
Starting from scratch is scary. You don’t want to leave behind everything that you’ve built with this other person. You don’t want to decide that all of the milestones you’ve reached, all of the accomplishments you’ve made, have been for nothing. But you need to put your happiness above everything else. Yes, starting over again will be uncomfortable. It will put you in some awkward situations. It will cause some tension and fights. Things will probably get worse before they get better again. But you don’t want to force yourself to stay in the wrong relationship simply because it’s easier than walking away. You don’t want your main reason for dating someone to be convenience or fear.
It’s never easy to say goodbye or to start something new – but the right decision is rarely the easy decision. If you want to make yourself happy tomorrow, then you might have to put yourself through some trouble today. Your future self is going to thank you for the sacrifices you made, for the risks you took, for the trust you had in yourself. You have been through horrible times before. You have the strength to make it through this, too. You have the strength to make it through anything.
Remember, the sooner you end the relationship and start over again, the sooner you’ll be able to build something new. Something that makes you proud. Something that gives you the excitement that you’ve been missing. If you keep putting off the inevitable, procrastinating day after day after day, then it will take even longer to reach a place where you feel comfortable. If you rip off the bandage now, you’ll be able to begin again. Instead of seeing this as a setback or failure, see it as an opportunity. A blessing in disguise.
Starting over beats staying in the wrong relationship because you can’t keep clinging to the past. You can’t hold onto someone wrong for you because you have so much history together, because you feel obligated to stick together since you’ve already been through so much and it would feel weird to leave. It’s okay if you don’t want the same things today that you wanted yesterday. It’s okay if you need to take the selfish route and do what makes you the happiest. You’re allowed to make choices for you. No one else is going to.
Staring over is never easy, whether you’re leaving a relationship, ending a friendship, or quitting a job. There are going to be obstacles ahead, but you’ve surprised yourself before. You can do it again. You can make something out of nothing. Remember, everyone has to start somewhere. You might not want to start from scratch at your age, but it’s better to do it today than two or ten or twenty years from now. Knowing what you want is half the battle, so if you’ve already figured that part out, go with your gut. Do what will give you the best shot at happiness.