The Most Toxic Relationship Of Your Life Will Be With The ‘Nice Guy’

The most toxic relationship of your life will be with the “nice guy” because it is a title that is self-proclaimed. And because he considers himself to be a nice guy, he also believes he can do no wrong.

Fights will always be your fault. His carelessness will always be your problem because you’re just “overreacting” when you ask him to let you know when he’s running late or to keep you in the loop regarding the Saturday night plans he both initiated and forgot about. He will hurt your feelings and say it was “just a misunderstanding” instead of what it actually was: shitty behavior. He will never hold himself accountable and resent you when you try and get him to take responsibility for his shortcomings.

The nice guy likes the idea of you but not who you actually are. He will listen to you but not actually comprehend what it is you’re truly saying. He will project all of his wants and desires in your direction and blame you when you don’t live up to his unrealistic expectations.

The nice guy will be possessive and call it protective. He will be demanding but say it’s because he has standards. He will be emotionally draining and say it’s because he’s in touch with his feelings.

But mostly, the nice guy will cling to the idea that he is nice and therefore is entitled to all of your time, attention, and effort. Because he can only understand being respectful and kind in the context of an exchange. If it gets him something in return.

It’s bullshit. But mostly, it’s not “nice” at all. It is manipulation. Plain and simple.

A relationship with the “nice guy” will be toxic, it will be exhausting, and it will ultimately not last. Don’t get involved with him. It will never be worth your time.