The Secretly Unloveable Trait About Each Zodiac Sign

A lot of people struggle with self-love and to that, I want to say: we are all inherently valuable and lovable. However sometimes our less-than-desirable traits can get in the way and make us just a tad harder to love. 

This is why it isn’t easy to love you based on your zodiac sign, as well as tips to improve. 

Aries — Selfish. 

You have a tendency to be selfish and self-absorbed at times. The people in your orbit may feel like it’s your world and they’re just living in it. That’s fine some of the time, but it becomes a problem when it’s most of the time. 

Try to step outside of yourself and see into someone else’s experience of the world. Instead of focusing on yourself and your goals and getting yours, try to help someone else actualize their potential. Give others the gift of feeling motivated and inspired because it doesn’t come as easily to others as it does for you. 

Taurus — Stubborn and rigid.

To put it bluntly, you are stubborn and always need to have things your way. You definitely fit best with people who are adaptable and err on the indecisive side since you are the opposite. However, even the most passive pony will sometimes want a say in what’s happening. Instead of reflexively getting angry and dismissing someone else’s idea as being beneath yours, open up your worldview a little and learn that it’s OK to sometimes do it someone else’s way. 

If you never let your partner have a say in anything, they will eventually come to resent you and this will absolutely poison your relationship. 

Gemini — Flighty. 

You’re indecisive and flighty and while it can be cute and quirky at times, it can also be frustrating and annoying. Your flightiness can come across as instability making it hard for people to really trust you. Practice getting in touch with yourself and figuring out exactly what it is you want. What sort of life do you want? What does it look like? Paint a picture in your mind and when it comes to making decisions, choose the option that brings you closer to your ultimate goal. 

Cancer — Too moody and emotional.

A person’s greatest gift is often a hint of their greatest weakness. You are warm and nurturing, but your sensitivity has a dark side and can manifest as being too moody, clingy, and overly emotional. No one is telling you to bottle up your emotions, but you should practice expressing them in a healthy way. Instead of instinctively reacting, take some full deep breaths and get centered. When you’re in a calmer space, decide how you want to handle the situation. 

Also, don’t give your whole self to your relationship. It’s important to continue having a life outside of the relationship so you’re not so reliant on your partner to give you a sense of self or worth. 

Leo — Self-centered and vain.

Cue the music… you’re so vain. Yes, that song was probably about you. You have a tendency to be self-absorbed and self-centered and this can spiral out of control when left unchecked. Your light shines bright and you want that to be known, but you have much more power when you shine that light on others. Rather than highlighting your greatness, why not help others also be great? Your confidence can be infectious when it comes from a healthy place and being in your presence can make others feel uplifted and inspired. Focus on fine-tuning your strengths for the sake of putting more good out into the world, rather than proving yourself for the sake of feeding your ego. 

Virgo — Judgmental and critical.

You are as hard on yourself as you are on others and it’s exhausting to be around. Try to think about how you want other people to feel in your presence. Do you want them to feel insecure, small, and guarded? Probably not because you can’t form meaningful connections this way. If you want people to feel secure, calm, and authentic in your presence, you have to bring that energy into the interaction. I know it’s hard for you, so notice your inner critic every day. Identify it and see it as a separate entity from yourself because that voice isn’t you. When it runs interference, ask that part to step aside so your true self can shine through. 

Libra — passive aggressive.

You mean well, you just want everyone to be happy and at peace, but no one likes passive aggression. Conflict is inevitable, even the happiest couples argue. It’s not a bad thing as long as you use those disagreements as a means to reach a resolution. When you sweep everything under the rug and act like it’s all fine, then you end up causing dissolution. Ask yourself: why am I so hesitant to say how I really feel? What am I afraid of? Get to the root of it before it causes more problems in your life. 

Scorpio — Guarded and controlling.

You keep everything close to your chest, you gather intel and use it to gain the upper hand. Now if you want to play chess, that’s great. But in a relationship… this is not so great. You have to let go and let your guard down. Do this gradually if it makes you more comfortable, but it has to be done. How can anyone love the real you if they can’t access it behind that armor? 

Maybe you feel your real self isn’t good enough, or maybe you’re afraid of being hurt… and that’s understandable. But there is no joy in living behind the wall you’ve created. If you want to experience true love, you have to take that wall down. 

Sagittarius — Commitment-phobe.

You are known for being fun and free… and this is great for a good time, but people can grow tired of your antics when the party stops. You want a commitment but you also fear it. Maybe you’re afraid it will be too limiting and you don’t want to give up your freedom. But one doesn’t have to come at the expense of the other. Get clear on what it is you really want and what you’re truly willing to sacrifice for. 

Capricorn — Obsessed with being the best.

Your drive and discipline are impressive, but when taken too far it can be off-putting. Perfection is an illusion. If you spend your life chasing after it, you will never be able to contribute to your relationship in a meaningful way and this will cause problems and resentment. Focus on achieving more of a balance in your life. Put it in your schedule if you have to. Take a break from always chasing your goals and practice just being present in the current moment. 

Aquarius — Emotionally detached.

Your emotional detachment is both the most intriguing and maddening thing about you. You are mysterious, and that can be fun, but if you want true love, you have to reveal a bit more of yourself. It’s not easy to be vulnerable and tap into the emotions you keep hiding away, but it’s necessary for the sake of your relationships. People can’t bond with an empty vessel. Check-in with yourself throughout the day and notice what emotions you’re experiencing. You spend so much time in the world of intellect, it’s worth visiting the world of emotion on occasion to say hi and see what’s going on there. 

Pisces — Playing the victim.

You’re sensitive and little things can have a big impact on you, but remember, no one likes a victim. It’s draining and exhausting. Take control over your life. Yes, you have much more control than you think. Stop feeding into the negative thoughts because when you do they gain power over you and suck you into that negative whirlpool. When something feels bad to you, stop engaging with that thought. Redirect your mind onto something positive and productive.