This Is What Intimacy Actually Is (Because It’s Not Just About Sex)

Intimacy isn’t just about having chemistry so palpable you can’t keep your hands off one another. Intimacy is more than just being able to turn someone on. Intimacy is more than physical. Intimacy is more than just attraction. Intimacy is more than having incredible sex.

Intimacy is baring your naked souls to one another. Intimacy is being raw and authentic and messy and broken and imperfect and human and loving each other anyway. Intimacy is about sharing the best and worst parts of yourselves and allowing these pieces to exist just as they are. Intimacy is withdrawing judgment and replacing it with compassion and understanding.

Intimacy is trust. Intimacy is a two-way street paved with promises to always give each other the best of one another. Intimacy is allowing room for mistakes and forgiveness and reconciliation and redemption. Intimacy is consideration of one another’s feelings. Intimacy is being one another’s safe space. Intimacy is kept secrets.

Intimacy is joy. Intimacy is laughing like hell over nothing at all. Intimacy is matching each other’s energy. Intimacy is goofiness. Intimacy is dancing in the living room when no one else is around to see. Intimacy is connection.

Intimacy is about not being afraid to disagree. Intimacy is speaking your minds. Intimacy is teaching the languages of your heartbeats. Intimacy is holding the door. Intimacy is holding eye contact. Intimacy holding space.

Intimacy is vulnerability. Intimacy is a freefall. Intimacy is the way love blooms best.