What Each Zodiac Sign Needs To Fix Feeling Insecure In A Relationship

Aries

As a cardinal fire sign, Aries, you hold tremendous power in the form of initiation. This drive leads you to be direct in your communication, and you have no problem approaching what you desire with intention, passion, and zest. Your partner is likely going to be less action-oriented than you, making you prone to feeling insecure about whether the relationship and/or desired connection is reciprocated. Ironically, although your dominant energy expresses fearlessness, it often masks deeper needs, desires, and fears lying beneath. When feeling insecure about whether the intention or intensity is matched, learn to ask for clarity. People aren’t mind readers, and few are as able to go after what they desire with the passionate (and effortless) intensity you do.

Taurus

Humble and stable Taurus, you make for one of the most loyal and nurturing partners around. As a sign ruled by Venus, relationships matter deeply to you. Due to your reliable nature, you often meet your own needs quite effortlessly and may struggle in asking to receive help, love, or support. When feeling insecure in a relationship, you often lean into gifts of self-sufficiency. This ironically amplifies the insecurity you feel. Although there is tremendous value in sovereignty, you benefit greatly by learning to speak your needs rather than continuously self-provide them. This will help your partner feel closer to you, as it gives them an opportunity to express their love and practice the gift of giving. You then are better able to see whether this person is willing to build an authentic partnership.

Gemini

As a mutable air sign, Gemini, you have a deep desire to obtain and assimilate information. Words come easily to you, and often in a way that never slows down. Your communication is a form of vulnerability — one that expresses curiosity and care from the deepest crevices of your heart. This is true whether or not you’re conscious of it. When in a relationship, you’re prone to approaching insecurity by stretching the truth. Although a white lie may add for some witty banter, it typically doesn’t get far in terms of problem solving or expressing vulnerability. You may develop resentment when partners appear unwilling to provide the support your energy needs and feels. When insecure in a relationship, practice leaning into conflict rather than avoiding it, and ensure you aren’t putting others in a position of needing to decipher the underlying message of your words. 

Cancer

Along your life journey, Cancer, you navigate what it means to master emotional vulnerability. When feeling insecure in a relationship, you’re prone to seek refuge in a hardened shell. This cuts you off from the external world around you in an attempt to avoid pain. Along the way, you ironically block yourself from experiencing the gifts of deep human connection, relational love, and interpersonal surrender — gifts you likely long for at the bottom of your heart. When feeling insecure in a relationship, learn to master “I” language: “I need,” “I feel,” “I fear,” “I want,” “I desire.” Your deeply sensitive nature leads you to be quite attuned to the emotions of others, but interrelational growth happens as you allow yourself to be a partner in participation.

Leo

As the regal member of the Zodiac, Leo, you have a deep desire for loyalty and to share basking in the spotlight. Few understand that when feeling deeply hurt, you’re more likely to retreat to lick your wounds in silence rather than dramatically express them. When you feel insecure, you’ll likely put on a mask in your relationship. This mask causes you to appear as if you’re performing rather than actively engaging in authentic connection. Feeling pain can hurt, but not as much as losing the relationships you deeply strive for. As the playful, childlike Zodiac, it’s essential you develop a healthy connection with your inner child so as to not subconsciously seek a partner who can meet this need for you. When feeling insecure in a relationship, practice embodying gratitude and generosity. This allows your abundant nature to shine through while helping you feel safe to communicate vulnerability. 

Virgo

Virgo, your desire for service leads you to an affinity for perfection, self-analysis, and keen attention to detail. Your name itself means “self-contained” in Latin. When feeling insecure in a relationship, you’ll likely close yourself off from connection by turning away from your partner and more deeply into yourself. This is often done in a way that is markedly self-critical. You’re prone to creating false narratives when feeling insecure in a relationship. Practice learning to state facts rather than stories. This will aid in your ability to see the full picture of the relational experience, and help your partner feel empowered to engage in effective dialogue with you.

Libra

Embodying the archetype of The Lover, Libra, your sign is one embracing romance and all that is beautiful. You strive for equanimity and calmness, expressing a kind charisma that inspires others to seek partnership with you. You often have prolonged honeymoon periods in relationships. While this is not an attempt at manipulation, you’re prone to hiding deeper needs and desires. You may remain acutely unaware of what needs and desires are as you play gracious host. Beneath the desire to maintain balance, lies the stark realization that hiding one’s truth inevitably shatters the beauty of interpersonal connection. When facing relational insecurity, practice being more assertive in your decisions and communication. Maintaining personal autonomy is vital in allowing authentic connection to form.

Scorpio

Associated with the process of transformation, few are as connected to the healing powers of love as an embodied Scorpio. As a water sign, you constantly navigate the world through the realm of feeling, making you prone to getting lost in the depths of emotionality. When feeling insecure in a relationship, it’s vital to reach a place of emotional clarity. When things feel too heavy, lean into the depths of your heart. Avoiding emotions will only trigger fear to grow, adding to a sense of loss and isolation. As you meet yourself where you’re at, you’ll learn the gift of surrender. A true partner is here to process life alongside you. Although it can feel scary to be seen, surrender allows you to receive rather than fight against the tides of love, light, and happily-ever-after.

Sagittarius

As a mutable fire sign, Sagittarius, you lead others through the lens of optimistic exploration. You understand knowledge is power, and knowledge held in lived experience far extends that of books or intellectual pursuits alone. You may find it easy to be single, or you may find yourself over-extending in relationships prior to being ready. You build a philosophy out of life — one that is expansive, inclusive, and ever-growing with meaning and vitality. As a truth-seeker, when insecurity hits, it touches deeply. When this sense of insecurity impacts you relationally, practice grounding in your values. Only when you remember the core of who you are, can you appropriately decipher and communicate at the pace right for you.

Capricorn

Patient and persistent Capricorn, you feel a sense of obligation in every relationship you step into. When insecurity pops up in an intimate relationship, you likely default to pushing yourself to demands of harder work. In many cases, there are underlying emotional needs that need to be tended to, first. Not every relational problem is one that is logical. As you learn to ask better questions, you override tendencies towards solitude and withdrawal. This process expands your capacity to feel emotionally connected to and attune with your partner. In turn, allowing you the gift of feeling more open with them as well. 

Aquarius

Your ability to think for yourself is unparalleled, Aquarius. Your perspective is necessary in a growing and evolving world. When facing relational insecurities, be mindful of a tendency to be vindictive if you believe someone else is in the wrong. Making mistakes is part of being human, and part of developing meaningful relationships is learning the balance between grace and goodbyes, and forgiveness and boundaries. Be curious if there’s any resistance you feel towards allowing intimacy to happen. Insecurity is part of the process of humanity.

Pisces

The dreamer of the Zodiac, Pisces, you swim in the realm of the transcendent. Your tendency towards extreme empathy and forgiveness may lead you to getting lost in relationships. When dealing with relationship insecurity, be mindful of any tendency to escape or numb pain. Your deeply empathetic nature may search for release by means of avoiding rather than allowing. This avoidance often manifests in the physical plane and amplifies an inability to feel your needs are being met. By learning to maintain and communicate personal boundaries, you show up to decipher what work truly needs to be done. The process going on inside of you matters.