Why You Shouldn’t Worry About Ruining The Friendship

You might not want to ruin the friendship by hooking up on a whim if you know you’re never going to end up together. You might not want to ruin the friendship if you’re the type of person who can easily push your feelings aside, or if you have a habit of jumping from crush to crush and feel like this is only a temporary situation. However, if you have strong feelings for this person, if you can’t stop thinking about them, if they’re the perfect person for you and you have a feeling that they feel it too, then you should probably take a risk.

You aren’t going to be losing as much as you think by admitting your feelings for them. Even though you’re worried about ruining the friendship, the fact that you’ve developed feelings for them has already ruined your dynamic. You can hide your feelings from them – but you can’t hide them from yourself. That means the only choice you have left is how you ruin the friendship. You can ‘ruin the friendship’ by telling them how you feel and taking a shot on true love. Or you can ‘ruin the friendship’ by staying silent and watching them date other people while you slowly distance yourself from them because it hurts to see them so happy with someone else. Either way, things are going to get complicated now that you want to be with them.

Of course, you know your heart better than anyone. You know how much you can handle and how much you’re willing to risk when it comes to love. But if you know this is only the start of your feelings for them, that this longing isn’t going to go away anytime soon, then spilling your heart out might be the best move. Especially if you’re both available because that window of opportunity might not last forever. Of course, if you want to be more cautious, test the waters. You don’t have to blurt out how much you care about them. You can start getting more and more flirtatious to try to see how they respond, how they feel about you, whether their feelings have been bubbling up the same way that yours have. If you’re on the same page, if you’re both willing to take that risk, then go with your gut. Do what feels right.

You don’t want your fear to hold you back from finding your person. You don’t want to miss out on the chance to get to know someone special on an even deeper level. After all, if you’re such good friends with this person and are meant to remain in each other’s lives, then you’ll be able to stay friends after the relationship ends. And at least you’ll know whether or not you would have worked out. You won’t have to spend the rest of your life questioning what could have been.

If you want this person more than you’ve ever wanted anything else, then you should stop worrying about ruining the friendship. Worry about whether you’re going to let this golden opportunity pass you by.