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Why You’re Attracted To The Wrong Ones, According To Your 2023 Zodiac Path


(March 21st to April 19th)

You believe that there’s more good in people than there actually is. When you start to fall for someone, you are often blinded by your affection, and end up rationalizing negative traits to convince yourself they “aren’t that bad.” It’s not that you’re really choosing the wrong people, but that you struggle to see people for who they really are once your feelings are involved. You have to go the extra step to retain a sense of clarity when it comes to these things. You pride yourself on being logical, but this is the one area of your life in which you’re easily swept away.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You’re being hasty. Life exists in your mind’s eye, and because of that, you are happiest when things are cohesive and make sense. The idea that other people are finding the right relationships and settling down before you are can grate at you; or on the other hand, you get into a relationship and though you aren’t 100% sure about your partner, you become too attached to the image and want to uphold this kind of “perfect life.” A messy breakup is not part of your pretty picture, and you end up suffering for years longer than you need to because you aren’t as willing to go through the necessary trial and error of finding your real soulmate.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You become obsessed with people too quickly. It’s not that you’re gullible, it’s that you’re easily taken by their positive qualities and you love how other people make you feel. You aren’t necessarily blinded by love, you’re just so deeply in love with love that you want to dive all the way in without ever really considering things from a more rational perspective (because what’s less romantic than that?!) You actually do make an incredible life partner, when you find the right person. You’re loyal, devoted and you will all but worship your significant other. The problem is you’re too willing to offer all of that to people who don’t care as much about you in return.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You’re the most underestimated romantic of the zodiac. While many people would be quick to recognize a Libra as having that title, it’s really you, Cancer. You fall fast and hard and are always wrapped up in your own beautiful little fairytale – one that very often only exists in your own mind. You fall for people who appeal to many of your emotions; you’re more likely to end up extensively involved with someone who makes you feel fulfilled or validated or inspired. When you combine your desire for settledness with the feeling of being understood, you misinterpret that to mean you’ve found your correct match. The good news is that you make for a world class partner when you are with the right s/o. The bad news is it can be a bit of a touch and go situation until you find them.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You fall in love with ideas about people, not their realities. And these ideas that you have about them usually suit your ego more than they do your heart – you like how they look, you like how they treat you, you like how other people see you together. None of these things is enough to constitute love. To find what you’re really looking for, you’re going to have to do the thing you’ve been avoiding for so long, which is being vulnerable enough to see who really is a fit.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You’re hypercritical of your potential partners. While this may seem as though you actually have a hard time falling in love with anyone (which can also be true) it more often actually manifests as you finding one person you think is “totally perfect” based on a set of falsely informed and arbitrary standards, and then becoming really, really angsty when it doesn’t work out. There is a difference between the kind of person you think is “right,” and the kind of person you actually connect and get along with in reality.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You’re just desperate for the fairytale. Libras were not meant to be alone. They are the sign of the scales, and are ruled by Venus (love) and the combination usually means that they thrive when they’re in partnership with someone: they need their balancing halves, and they need to feel love. This is particularly tricky for Libras who are introverted, or highly independent. The combination usually means that they are resistant to feeling dependent on someone, while at the same time longing to feel dependent on someone. They usually end up projecting all of this unrecognized longing onto the wrong person, and then being confused when it doesn’t work out.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You’re not actually falling in love, you’re identifying someone who you think will give you some kind of deep, dark satisfaction (validate that you are worthy, reaffirm that you’ve moved on from your ex) and then when they DON’T give you that (because nobody really can) you also take it out on them. You’re falling for the wrong people because you’re not choosing them out of love. When you’re ready to open your heart and let them in, it will come, and it will be beautiful.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You don’t have a great sense of judgment when it comes to partners, which is interesting, as Sags are known for being analytical/intellectual and having a good head on their shoulders. But you’re equally as motivated by whatever you perceive to be a good time or the “right thing for right now,” and that’s what gets you into trouble. The person who peaks your interest today may not have the qualities to be compatible with you in the long-term. On top of that, your sign is famous for letting go of true love for dumb reasons.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You are looking for someone else to give you your sense of purpose and direction in life. Capricorns like to be with people who they perceive as more “together” than they are. It feels soothing to them to be the one who isn’t constantly in charge, or constantly trying to manage everything all at once. But it’s never an equal partnership, because you can’t have a truly free-flowing exchange of love and respect when you’re both using each other to satisfy unfulfilled needs.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You’re being too logical about love. You’re choosing partners based on traits that you assume are compatible with your own, and though you’re not actually wrong about this, you’re forgetting that chemistry isn’t rational. You either have it or you don’t. Working on yourself doesn’t change this, and you can’t control it. You need to give into the fact that the people you are meant to love you will just feel something for, and not necessarily understand why.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You’re swimming all over the place, as you are prone to do. You’re jumping from one love interest to the next, and it’s not a good look. You need to recognize that the kind of relationship you are looking for is not going to be found if you aren’t willing to give up a degree of the fluidity in your life to really commit. Stop worrying about the unimportant crap, too: it doesn’t matter if they’re tall or not, if they have money or not, if your parents would approve. You will only thrive when you enter a partnership with someone who fulfills and sustains you with no supporting “evidence” that they should. In other words: let love be free, let it be illogical, let it come when it comes. But when it does, throw your heart in and make it happen. You will be so happy that you did.