Here’s a tough pill to swallow: you don’t always need closure.
Oftentimes we reach out to someone we ended things with as a means of wanting and getting closure to help us move on. We want a grand, poetic gesture. We want to see if things will change, even though we know, deep down, they won’t.
But let’s be honest: wanting this big moment with high expectations is just weighing you down. Wanting closure is, in a way, denial. It’s still wanting and needing this other person to give you something. It’s still being tethered to them.
If you’re trying to move on, you need to understand that you don’t need closure to do so.
Maybe you want answers or an apology, but whatever the case, you’re still attached to this person, ultimately prolonging your healing. They might not come to their senses at the same time you do, so you cannot wait around and sit in your hurt until they do. If they do.
Sometimes you have to cut the cord and let it go. It’s easier said than done, but you have to, at the very least, just try. Find your peace. You’re allowed to move on and carry on with your life without closure — don’t forget that.